Don’t Be An Emotional Tampon

I met this girl recently and I went over her house to hang out for a bit. We were talking and getting to know each other when all of sudden we stumbled onto an interesting topic. She told me a story about a guy “friend” that she “use” to have, and the whole time she was telling me this story, I couldn’t help but cringe for the poor guy.

I’ve shortened the story up to get to the point and it basically goes like this: The girl gets married and it doesn’t work out, and she’s heart broken and emotionally torn up. The divorce is nasty and she’s going through the toughest period in her life. In comes along this other dude who obviously wants wants to be more than “just friends” but who never mans up and verbalizes it or makes any attempt to let her know that he wants to get intimate with her. The girl basically uses him for two years. She admits that he came in at the right time, and helped her through this rough period. He took her out, spent time with her, took care of her, listened to her problems, and she considered him a “friend”.

All the time she was telling me this, I knew the guy wasn’t just trying to be her friend. Obviously he wanted more, but I guess he was just too afraid to let her know.

Fast forward two years, and finally after two years of being a “friend,” he let’s his true intentions be known. He lets her know that he really likes her and that he wants to be with her. What do you think happened?

Basically, she stopped talking to him. And the poor guy, now that he let the rabbit out of the hat, keeps hitting on her more then ever.

Never be the emotional tampon.

This poor guys #1 mistake was that he waited two years for his real intentions to be known. Please don’t make this mistake. If you’re attracted to a woman, you have to let her know in one way or another that you want to move things forward. Compliment her on whatever you find attractive. Let her know you think she’s attractive. Try to kiss her. Keep moving things forward. Obviously, waiting for a few dates to do this is fine, but don’t wait TWO freaking years!

But what if she rejects you?

Be thankful that she rejects you! Not every girl you meet and go out with will be interested in sleeping with you or having a relationship with you. If she doesn’t feel the same way you feel about her, then just move on. Don’t waste your time. Rejection should be seen as a time saver. You don’t want to waste two years before you go for the kiss and then get the “let’s just be friends” line.

And speaking about the “let’s just be friends” line. If she really does want to be your friend and she’s not interested in you romantically, then tell her to hook you up with some of her friends. If she doesn’t want to do that for you, is she really you friend? Or is she just trying to use you? I think you know the answer to that one.

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Travelers: How And Why To Protect Your Assets Against Inflation

You might be wondering why I’m writing a blog post on how to protect your assets against inflation? A couple of months ago I wrote a blog post about Why American Men Should Be Worried About Inflation And The Dollar. This is the follow up post and I think it’s a very important one for certain guys who want to keep traveling in the future.

This particular blog post is directed towards American and English men. Both currencies and economies are in trouble and both the Pound Sterling and the Dollar will experience massive inflation in the short, medium, and long term.

For all of you who live in these two countries, inflation means a loss of your purchasing power which means many things get more expensive, including travel costs. As your purchasing power decreases against other currencies you’re once might dollar or pound will no longer go such a long way in foreign countries.

So the bad news is that your currencies are going down the toilet, but you don’t have to let your assets and savings be eroded away through inflation. One of the best investment options available to you right now is to invest abroad in countries which have better fundamental economies. You want to base your current investment strategy on owning real assets such as commodities, utilities, real estate (in certain places), precious metals, etc. You also want to own these stocks, bonds, and assets in countries that own a lot of commodities, as well as countries that have sounder economic policies then the United States and UK. Some of these countries include Canada, Australia, Singapore, Hong Kong, China to name a few.

If you listen to economists that predicted this current recession: Guys like Peter Schiff, and Jim Rogers, you know that the world is heading for inflationary times. Some countries like the United States are headed there in much worse shape and will get hit much harder. However, by investing in commodities and real assets abroad you guard yourself against inflation and you position yourself to prosper from inflation.

If you have your money safely stashed away in foreign currencies, stocks and bonds. You will at least preserve the current purchasing power of your savings and assets, and you may very well increase it. This means that you’ll be in a very good position to keep the same standard of living, and keep traveling, while many of your other country men will unfortunately be wiped out through inflation.

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How To Dress When Traveling Through Latin America

Throughout my book The Global Dating Revolution, I give a lot of tips and advice for those of you that will take the leap into International Dating and actually travel abroad to see what the women are like in other countries.

On Page 250 of The Global Dating Revolution I give the following tips on dressing while your traveling through Latin America. I feel most of these will be applicable to Eastern Europe and South East Asia as well:

Don’t dress like a tourist, with shorts, loud Hawaiian shirt and camera around your neck. Dress casual or business casual with a nice pair of khakis, jeans and either a nice button down shirt or nice t-shirt. Dress for your body type. If you’re very thin, you might want to wear more then one layer, and don’t wear clothes that are too loose fitting. By the same token if you’re a husky guy, no horizontal stripped shirts and nothing that’s too tight:

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The One Time I Got Scammed By A Girl In Colombia

This happened a few years ago but I think it’s a story worth telling. It’s a story about the only time I’ve been scammed by a girl in Latin America, and it happened in Colombia. I’m not signaling out Colombia or Colombian women, but I just happen to spend a lot of time in Colombia so it makes sense that here is where I would most likely be scammed for the first time.

Basically what happened is that I met this girl online and we talked for months. I was planning a trip to Medellin, and this was about four years ago. I was really attracted to this girl and I had seen her pictures and chatted with her on a web cam. The only problem was that she didn’t live in Medellin.

When I got to Medellin we kept in contact through phone calls and we flirted on the phone, she seemed like a normal trust worthy woman. I was debating whether or not to go see her in Bucaramanga, the city where she lived. I decided against it because I really didn’t want to take the bus all the way to her city so I suggested she come visit me.

She thought it was a great idea but she told me she didn’t have money. I suggested she try to get the money from someone, even borrow it, and that i would pay her ticket when she got here. Here’s where the story takes a twist. I never send money. But this particular instance I figured, “ahh what the hell it’s only $40 dollars.” That’s approximately what the buss ticket would cost.

I went to a western union and sent her the cash, I called her and gave her the code, everything seemed to be going along fine. She told me she would arrive on the bus about two days later.

Two days passed, I called, I waited. I called I waited, and nothing. I started to get the feeling I had been scammed. She never picked up my phone calls after that and I felt like a real sucker. I knew I shouldn’t have broken my rule of never sending money. Eventually I got her on the Messenger and I asked her what happened, I forgot exactly what she said but basically she said she couldn’t send the money back, and that she couldn’t come visit me either. I erased her from my phone and MSN messenger list and I never heard from here again.

If there’s one lesson to be learned from my story, it’s to: never send money. PERIOD. The second lesson to be learned is to: never break your rules for anyone.

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Obesity: One of the Reasons It’s Harder to Date Attractive Women

A large chunk of my first book, The Global Dating Revolution, revolves around explaining the differences between different dating environments around the world. The truth is dating environments in various regions around the world differ for many reasons. Some reasons are economic, some are cultural, some are demographic, I get in the nitty gritty of all of this in my book. I call these negative environmental differences (from a man’s point of view), handicaps or sometimes “whammies.” If you can think of a better name for them please let me know!

One of the most frightening handicaps in the United States and other wealthy regions of the world is the obesity problem. The following excerpt is taken from page 72 of The Global Dating Revolution:

As the chapter continues I go onto explain some of the other effects obesity has on your dating environment. Keep in mind this is only one of the many handicaps that you might be facing in your local dating environment. Of course there will always be some men that can overcome all the handicaps and date many attractive women, but not everyone can be Michael Jordan.

But in places like Costa Rica, Colombia, Brazil, Ukraine, Russia and others, obesity and other handicaps aren’t as big of an issue or present at all. These are the REAL reasons why the dating environment in many foreign countries is actually skewed towards the men, instead of towards the women, like it is in most places in the USA.

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Why Time Can Be Your Biggest Allie With Foreign Women

When your traveling abroad and you get to a new country or city it takes a little while to adapt to your surroundings. Some people adapt in a week, but others take longer. It also takes time to build up a social circle, make new friends and learn your way around. For all of these reasons I always recommend at least three weeks in one location.

One perfect example is getting to know the night life. Usually when you get to a new city you won’t know what the best hang outs, bars, and clubs are. Most cities have places that are THE places to go on certain nights. Even if you ask the locals, taxis, or people you meet on the streets, the reality is that this information is usually hit or miss. Some people will send you the places THEY like, but they may not necessarily be the best places to meet single foreign women.

This is where persistence and time comes in. Make a note of where you go on what night, and how good the environment is. Ask the people that work there what the best nights are, ask the people inside the bar the same thing, and make a note. As time goes on you’ll be able to find the best spots on each night, and you’ll be able to find the best weekend hang outs. If you’re lucky you’ll find these spots in the first week, but sometimes it takes up to three or four weeks on constantly going out to start to find the really good places to meet single women.

Don’t move around too much. Stay in one place, get to know it, make friends, and be persistent. Sometimes things don’t start getting REALLY good until the last week. Although I recommend at least a three week stay in one place, if you can swing more then three weeks, then by all means do so.

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