Seeking Opportunity Abroad In International Dating

A recent article on Newsweek titled “Seeking Opportunity Abroad,” detailed how an increasing number graduates from the U.S.A’s top business schools are seeking jobs abroad instead of staying right here in the United States.

Here’s a small excerpt of the article:

When Mahesh Murarka graduated from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth in June 2009, he shunned the traditional B-school path of accepting a job in banking, consulting, or marketing in New York, London, or San Francisco. Instead, he returned to his native India to work for a reinsurance company with headquarters in Switzerland. “There is a lot more opportunity here right now,” he says. “The change in India is mind-blowing.”

Many of the nation’s top business schools report an increase in the number of students who are interested in working overseas in emerging markets such as India, China, Russia, and Brazil. Roughly 25 percent of recent Wharton M.B.A. graduates are now working abroad, compared with 16 percent a few years ago, and the trend no longer applies simply to international M.B.A. students who opt to return home after earning their degrees. In addition to working in finance and consulting, these M.B.A. students are moving overseas to work in real estate, investing, energy, and infrastructure. “It definitely feels like it’s not a temporary hiccup,” says Michelle Antonio, director of the MBA Career Management at Wharton. “The students feel like that’s where the action is.”

What’s good for the MBA is good for the average guy who wants to better his dating results. If there can be more opportunity abroad for a person’s career. Or if there can more investment opportunities abroad. Or if companies can see more opportunities to expand abroad. Can there also be opportunities to better your dating results abroad?

The answer is: Can I Get a Hell Yeah!?

There are places on this planet where dating, and meeting women is tougher (from a man’s point of view). There are also places in this world like Latin America, Eastern Europe and South East Asia where meeting women and dating is easier. Of course nothing will be handed to you on a silver platter. There are obstacles to overcome, like language, culture, time constraints, etc.

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But regardless of all the obstacles the bottom line is that there is more opportunity abroad, both for recent college graduates, and for regular guys who want want to improve their dating results.

Latin Women Dating Tips: Tip # 2 Food

Tip #2: Food – The way to a Latina’s heart

One of the best conversational tools you can use with Latin women is: Food. Every culture is defined in part by it’s food. And Latin America is no different. Although the dishes and foods throughout Latin America have many similarities, each country and even each region within a country has it’s own specialties and even different names for what may be the same dishes. There’s a million things you can ask about the food from her country and region.

A conversation on food can lead to many places. Does she know how to cook? If she does, she might have to cook for you sometime. What’s her favorite dish from her country? Does she know any places that have good typical dishes from her country/region? Suggest a nice dinner at the places she mentions.

I know dinner dates have lost their glitter in the eyes of many. But dinner doesn’t always have to be in a restaurant. You can ask her to come over, go shopping together for all the ingredients, and help her make a typical dish from her country. Add a bottle of wine (or some other alcoholic beverage) and some music and it not only makes for a small little adventure into the super market and the kitchen, it makes for a great date.

There’s just something about eating together that creates intimacy. That intimacy gets even stronger when you’re both making the bread you’re going to break. If you think about it, most major world religions have some sort of a traditional ritual feast. Breaking bread together just brings people closer to each other.

I’m sure you’ve heard that “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Latin women take this very seriously, but now you can use her stomach as a way to build rapport, setup great dates, and add some interesting topics into the conversation.

International Dating: The Reality And Some of The Obstacles

There are numerous reasons why it’s going to take a long time for you to hit your stride in foreign countries. Some of these include:

• How well you know the language
• How fast you find the best night spots or if you know where they are
• How fast you find the best day spots or if you know where they are
• How fast you get use to the culture
• Overcoming stereotypes of you as a foreigner

These main barriers are the usual road blocks abroad. The most important one being language. But all of this doesn’t mean that dating environments abroad can’t be better then your local dating environment. Sometimes it just takes time to hit your stride.

Although language can be barrier, as long as you obtain some conversational fluency, it shouldn’t be much of a problem.

What you need to do is focus on the obstacles and overcoming them…

Overcoming stereotypes:
One of the main stereotypes you’ll encounter abroad, especially in Latin America is the fact that people will think you’re a rich American who’s only there to bang prostitutes. I’ve seen this all over Latin America. A lot of these stigmas come from past Americans and past foreigners who have come to Latin American countries for just that. These guys have given the rest of the “gringos” a bad name, but it is something that will change with time. The only way to get by this stereotype is to stay away from the “prepagos” or working girls, and in some cases from the places where these women frequent.

Overcoming style differences:
If you have an eccentric style like that of a rocker in the U.S.A you might have a tough time fitting in unless you find your perfect niche inside the city you’re visiting. American rock isn’t that popular throughout most of Latin America. In some cities the music might be popular but the style is pretty much non existent. The same can be said for a hip-hop type of style with fitted caps etc. You might find certain venues that cater to the music in certain large Latin America cities but in general these styles won’t help in Latin America. In these cases I would suggest you try to fit in more by changing your style a bit, to something you feel more comfortable with, but something that is more common throughout Latin America.

Finding The Best Night Spots:
In large cities the size of Buenos Aires or Bogota or even Medellin sometimes it’s taken me up to one month to find the really good night spots. I’m talking about the spots where you might be the only foreigner in the place and places that are loaded with single women. Also, these same places might be the best places to approach women who don’t speak any English.

It takes a lot of trial and error, asking around, checking different places out on different nights. In the first week you’ll find the most well know, places. Usually people will point you the priciest most well known place in the city, for example if you’re in Medellin and get in a taxi or ask anyone, they’ll tell you to go to Mangos or El Poblado, but I’ve found they’re not the best place to meet single women in Medellin.

If you’re lucky you’ll find the best places on the first week, but I usually don’t expect to find them until week 3 or 4, sometimes longer. And you’ll only find these places by being persistent and going out often.

International Dating with Foreign Women – All Hype Or The Real Deal?

Anyone who doesn’t really read and understand my material might get offended by some of my points of view on American women, and some of the things I say on my blog and in my books, for example my stance on obesity. Others who don’t take the time to understand my material will think I’m exaggerating, or making all of this up, for example why foreign women are a better option. Aside from the haters, most guys agree with me and appreciate the information I share in my books and blog. Most men who travel, have been abroad or have dated a foreign woman, agree 100% with my philosophy, my material and my approach to dating. I can say without a doubt that I’ve helped hundreds of men open their eyes to international dating, and they all thank me for it.

The core of my approach to women is to focus on the environment. Everything else is secondary. If dating attractive, feminine women who will appreciate you, be attentive to your needs and who will treat you like a king is your priority, then it’s best to put yourself in an environment where all your efforts will give you the highest return on investment. It’s all about ROI. Do you want to work twice, three times or ten times as hard to achieve this result? You wouldn’t want to work twice as hard to earn the same salary, why would you want to take this approach to one of the most important aspects of your life as a man?

There are many reasons why dating environments and male-female dynamics differ from country to country and region to region in the world. In the first part of my book The Global Dating Revolution, I explain all of these reasons, I lay out my case with concrete examples, real world statistics, case studies, and hard core facts. After reading the first part of my book you will understand the three basic causes of environmental differences. I’ll list all three along with one example of each and how it could effect your dating environment.

Demographic Differences:
One example of a demographic difference is the ratio of men to women in a country or region. Certain parts of the world simply have better ratios for men. Other parts of the world have better demographics for women. It’s a known fact that countries like the Ukraine and Russia have a shortage of men which means the women in those countries have a much tougher time in the dating game. Here is quote taken from the library of congress:

“Most of the demographic disasters that have beset Russia in the twentieth century have affected primarily males. In 1992 the sex ratio was 884 males per 1,000 females; in the years between 1994 and 2005, the imbalance is projected to increase slightly to a ratio of 875 males per 1,000 females (see table 7, Appendix). Gender disparity has increased because of a sharp drop in life expectancy for Russian males, from sixty-five years in 1987 to fifty-seven in 1994.”

Apart from ratios there are other demographic differences which can greatly effect your dating environment. This is just one example but when you add up two, three or four demographic advantages available in some regions, you can start to imagine the great benefit in being somewhere where the demographics are in your favor and not against you.

Cultural Differences:
There are many cultural differences that will effect the way women react towards men and treat men in certain cultures. The single most important difference in culture between countries like the United States and regions of the world which I feel offer the best dating environments is feminism. Feminism in many western countries has taught women to become more masculine, combative, and less feminine. However, this movement hasn’t really taken hold in places like Latin America, Eastern Europe and South East Asia. In these regions of the world women are still the feminine creatures they were meant to be. They won’t hide their emotions, they won’t feel weak for cultivating or expressing their femininity. In the United States however, many women feel being feminine is a sign of weakness. Most men who have date foreign women from the regions I recommend, have expressed the same views, and prefer feminine foreign women, as opposed to masculine American women.

Socio-Economic Differences:
Another great force that is often overlooked but effects certain dating environments greatly are the socio-economic forces. One great example of this is immigration. There are a great deal of people that don’t really appreciate how much immigration can effect the dating environments of the two regions effected by the immigration. Lets take a look at one specific region: The Americas. During the past 50 or so years we’ve seen massive amounts of immigration from Latin America to North America, not to mention the immigration of people from other parts of the world to United States. Millions upon millions of migrants have moved to North America.

The fact is that men outnumber women in this migration by a factor of 2 to 1 maybe even 3 to 1. The biggest differences are in the illegal migration of men, which is almost entirely made up of men and is harder to account for and work into these statistics. This isn’t something that is isolated to the United States. Europe has seen a flood of male migrants from Eastern European countries such as Turkey, as well as from Northern Europe and Latin America. But, you might be asking what does this have to do with the dating environment?

If millions of young men move into your back yard, that means more competition for you. But back in the regions where these men are coming from, you’ll find all of the women that were left behind, who are now single, and who probably have a tougher time dating men because many of the men who would have been prime candidates in their age range, have gone abroad in search of work.

Bottom Line:
The bottom line is that when you take into account all of these environment differences in different dating environments around the world, you can get a broad picture of the whether the environment is favorable to the men or favorable to the women.

When it’s boiled down to it’s simplest form, my approach to dating looks something like this:

Let’s say there are two night clubs in town. Both night clubs have the same crowds every night.

Club “A” always has 100 guys and 50 women. In this club the ratios are in favor of the women and obviously the odds are against you.

Club “B” is a bit far, but even though it takes longer to drive there, this club always has 100 women, and 50 guys inside.

Each club has a different environment, club A favors the women overall, and club B favors the men. All other things being equal, any guy in his right mind would want to be in club B. There may be a small amount of hyper-competitive men who like the lesser odds and the competition in club A, but for the most part, most men will prefer to be in club B where there are 2 women for every man.

My approach to dating is to find the club B’s of this world. In other words, find the best places for men around the world. These are places where the environment puts the dating game in their favor, and these are places where dating, relationships and romance stop being so difficult and become more natural, and easy (at least from man’s point of view).

Through my book “The Global Dating Revolution” I explain why these best places are Latin America, Eastern Europe and South East Asia. I explain in full detail the obstacles and pitfalls that many uninformed men run into and I also guide you step by step through the world of International Dating and cross cultural romance.

Other Factors:
Apart from all of the examples listed above, being a foreigner in a foreign land gives you a heads up against the local men, and a great appeal amongst the women, for many reasons as well. There are many other factors at play here, too many to list in one post but let’s just say that when you add everything up, the sum is often greater then the parts, and meeting and dating women abroad is the real deal.

Don’t Be An Emotional Tampon

I met this girl recently and I went over her house to hang out for a bit. We were talking and getting to know each other when all of sudden we stumbled onto an interesting topic. She told me a story about a guy “friend” that she “use” to have, and the whole time she was telling me this story, I couldn’t help but cringe for the poor guy.

I’ve shortened the story up to get to the point and it basically goes like this: The girl gets married and it doesn’t work out, and she’s heart broken and emotionally torn up. The divorce is nasty and she’s going through the toughest period in her life. In comes along this other dude who obviously wants wants to be more than “just friends” but who never mans up and verbalizes it or makes any attempt to let her know that he wants to get intimate with her. The girl basically uses him for two years. She admits that he came in at the right time, and helped her through this rough period. He took her out, spent time with her, took care of her, listened to her problems, and she considered him a “friend”.

All the time she was telling me this, I knew the guy wasn’t just trying to be her friend. Obviously he wanted more, but I guess he was just too afraid to let her know.

Fast forward two years, and finally after two years of being a “friend,” he let’s his true intentions be known. He lets her know that he really likes her and that he wants to be with her. What do you think happened?

Basically, she stopped talking to him. And the poor guy, now that he let the rabbit out of the hat, keeps hitting on her more then ever.

Never be the emotional tampon.

This poor guys #1 mistake was that he waited two years for his real intentions to be known. Please don’t make this mistake. If you’re attracted to a woman, you have to let her know in one way or another that you want to move things forward. Compliment her on whatever you find attractive. Let her know you think she’s attractive. Try to kiss her. Keep moving things forward. Obviously, waiting for a few dates to do this is fine, but don’t wait TWO freaking years!

But what if she rejects you?

Be thankful that she rejects you! Not every girl you meet and go out with will be interested in sleeping with you or having a relationship with you. If she doesn’t feel the same way you feel about her, then just move on. Don’t waste your time. Rejection should be seen as a time saver. You don’t want to waste two years before you go for the kiss and then get the “let’s just be friends” line.

And speaking about the “let’s just be friends” line. If she really does want to be your friend and she’s not interested in you romantically, then tell her to hook you up with some of her friends. If she doesn’t want to do that for you, is she really you friend? Or is she just trying to use you? I think you know the answer to that one.

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What Happens To Game And Pickup During A Recession?

When it comes to dating in such a highly competitive environment such as the United States, you need stand out from the rest of the pack in order to date the most desirable women. It’s social Darwinism (for men). In the beginning of my book on international dating, I go into all the factors that make your local dating scene an uphill battle with many chips stacked against you, which practically forces you to work to stand out in some way, or stay single.

If you’re very wealthy, you’ll be able to meet and date the most sought after women because of your wealth. If you have great looks, this helps you stand out too, and you’ll meet women this way. If you have sophistication, and “game”, you’ll also stand out from the crowd and date the most desirable women.

Popular belief in the online dating community and seduction community holds that “game” trumps everything. In other words a guy who is really smooth, and sophisticated will get better results with women then a guy with a ton of money or guy with looks like a male model.

Whether or not this is true, one thing is for certain. As the economy continues it’s downward slide, money and wealth will become much more important than both looks or game, and here’s why:

First of all, let’s look at the past circumstances. In a country like the United States, a country with one of the highest recent standards of living, the average income is about 40k/year. Material possessions are common; credit is usually easy to come by. Having a nice car, or even your own small apartment doesn’t really make you stand out. In an area like Northern New Jersey/New York City where the average income is 50k/year if you make 60k/year, you’re just a little above average. That doesn’t sound like an income that really makes you stand outside of the pack, at least not where I live…

My point is, that in the past, “game” may have been more important then money. Why? Because when times were good, everyone had a good amount of money. What guy didn’t have money to spend on drinks for his date? What guy didn’t have money to buy dinner? Most men had money to buy a nice car. Most men had money to spend on the women they were dating, and most guys overspent. Which is one of the reasons why the seduction community teaches men not to spend money or buy drinks or dinner, so that they can stand out from all the other guys that DO buy drinks and dinner and overspend.

So, when money was falling out of trees, having a bit of it really didn’t set you apart. So maybe having “game” would set you apart more then having money.

But what happens during this long term downward trend where massive amounts of wealth is being lost, many men are loosing their jobs, credit is tight, and standards of living are dropping?

The truth is money isn’t as easy to come by as it use to be in the United States. And as money and wealth become scarcer, the law of supply and demand dictates that they will also become more sought after.

I’ll give you one small example (although I have many). I have many female friends back in New Jersey and while I’m back here in New Jersey, I’ve caught up with a lot of them. One of the biggest complaints I’ve heard about boyfriends and guys they’re dating is that they’re being cheap, or that they’re broke. One friend specifically mentioned that she was about to dump her boyfriend because he doesn’t buy her anything and because he’s being cheap. But guys aren’t the only ones feeling the pinch. For example girls that were working in bars or as waitresses aren’t making as much money as they use, just to name one small industry.

The good old days of the “game” trump card are over. And as this economic downturn is expected to span at least a 5 to 10 year period if not more, you can expect that money and wealth will be what sets you apart from the pack the most, going forward.

Ever heard of phrase “cash is king”? It’s certainly starting to look that way.

5 Things I Wish I Knew About Women and Dating When I Was 22

If I had a time machine I wish I could go back in time to advise my younger self to do things differently when it comes to women and dating. Knowing what I know today I could have saved thousands of dollars, untold amounts of energy, and tons of effort. Even though I had an average love life, I can just imagine what things would be like if I had focused my time en energy not on spending to impress the local ladies, but saving to invest international dating.

1. The International dating scene is 10 times better then the best dating scene in the U.S. I can go on and on about why this is the case, but that’s just the way it is these days. Someday 100 years from today, this may not be the case, but as it stands today, if you really want to supercharge your love life international dating is the way to go.

2. There are millions of available foreign women online, and they’re eager to meet regular guys. Every day more and more foreign women make it online. The sheer numbers of foreign women available online is staggering and the figure gets larger every day. You don’t need to travel any longer to meet foreign women. You can meet them from the comfort of your own home, and decide to travel later.

3. Traveling is not as expensive as it seems. Considering that you can a ticket to Costa Rica for sometimes as low as $200 dollars round trip from New York to San Jose, travel is not expensive as it seems. When I was younger I didn’t know you could stay at hostels for as little as $5 dollars a day (Sometimes less), or that tickets could be so cheap. If you’re really on tight budget there’s still ways to swing a trip. Back when I was 22 I would routinely spend $100-$200 just on a single night out to New York City. If I could cut back on weekend expenses for a month I’d have enough for a 1 or 2 weeks stay in Costa Rica.

4. Foreign women are naturally friendly and no extra mind games are needed to meet and date them. When I was 22 I was certain that “seduction” tactics were necessary to get anywhere with women. I didn’t realize that they’re only necessary in places where the dating scene is stacked against you. In places like this you need something to stand out, and if you don’t have the looks or money, you’re going to need some routines, mental mind games, and be able to talk your way into romance. This isn’t necessary abroad. A simple Eminem style “Hi, my name is…” will do just fine. The foreign women will take care of rest.

5. It’s all about ROI. If you want to be successful in any part of life you have to look at the return on investment. Today I know that the ROI for trying to dating locally here in New York/New Jersey really isn’t all that great. So I invest my money, time and energy in the international dating scene. It’s the same reason why many investors are now investing their money abroad and not in U.S. stocks and assets. The ROI of foreign investments has been much greater in the past few years. So when it comes to my love life, I now prefer to invest in international dating and foreign women.

If you were giving advice to your 22 year self about women and dating, what would it be?

Love Beyond Boarders

A few months ago I got a call from a guy name Carlos Duran, formerly from New Jersey, but now living in Costa Rica. It turns out that a short while after I had written my book on foreign women, he too had also written a book on the topic. After reading Carlos’ book on foreign women I have to say that he did a great job covering all of the bases when it comes to meeting foreign women. I’ve read many, if not all, of the books that are out there currently dealing with the topic but Carlos’ book comes out on top as one of the best ones out there.

For anyone that’s looking for a supplemental overview on meeting, dating, and marrying foreign women I suggest you get Carlos’ book. After speaking with Carlos personally I can vouch that he’s a stand up guy who practices what he preaches. He married his foreign girl a few years back and is currently happily living in Costa Rica with his wife and kids.

For more information on the Love Beyond Boarders book you can visit Carlos Duran’s website: http://foreignwomensecrets.com/video-confirm.html

Why Do Foreign Men Have Kids And Marry At Much Younger Ages Then American Men?

I’ve traveled extensively through Latin America, and I have family in a few different Latin countries. I’ve also lived and worked in Northern New Jersey for large part of my life. So I have a very good grasp of both Latin American culture and the culture here in the United States. Over the years I’ve noticed that my male friends, cousins, and uncles in Latin America usually get married and have kids at earlier ages then my American friends and family.

In general there seems to be a pattern where foreign males tend to have kids and get married a lot sooner then American males. Out of all my male friends in the U.S. very few got married in their late teens or early twenties, and only a few were married and had kids in their later 20’s. In fact, I’d say more then half of my friends in their 30’s here in the U.S. are single, maybe dating, but not married and have no kids.

So what gives? Why are these foreign guys procreating and marrying at earlier ages? Is it the water? Do they have a higher sperm count? All joking aside, I do think there are a few main reasons for this difference, but I think the biggest reason is this:

In Latin America men have much better dating options and they start meeting and dating women, even having sex at much younger ages. They enter the dating game much sooner, and they get more playing time, so eventually something happens and they up having kids and/or getting married.

I think some people would argue that Latin American men get married sooner because they might not use as much contraception, as American men, and then they get a girl pregnant, and they have to marry her. There probably is some small truth to this, but this scenario didn’t play out with any of my friends or family who are already married in Latin America.

And let’s not forget something else… I’ve met many, and I mean many men who have may have been dating in the U.S. and other countries such as Canada, Australia and England, but they’ve never been married there. These men step into Latin America, and after a few months of working there, or living there, they end up getting married? How do you explain that? The Internet is riddled with stories of workers, expats, students, volunteers, and vacationers who end up getting married to the sweet women they meet during their stay in Latin America. Seems like too much of a coincidence in my book…

I’ve been studying and researching phenomenon’s like this for many years, and my gut tells me that these men who were never married and who get married when they spend some time in Latin America do so because in Latin America they have access to quality, attractive, down to earth women. It’s something that very few American’s, Western Europeans, or our other counterparts, have access to at home.

Now imagine if you grew up in Latin America and had access to quality attractive women ever since you were young enough to start chasing women… Maybe you would be married and settled by now too? It’s something to think about, and it’s just another one of those dichotomies between the anti-male and pro-male regions of this world.

Bars And Clubs During The Recession

Are clubs getting better for guys during the recession? I think they are and here’s why.

I’m back in New Jersey for a few weeks and I went out to a few bars and clubs recently. If you’ve read my material you know that I pay a lot of attention to male/female ratios on the nights I go out. I like to pick places where the odds are in my favor or at least even. I hate going to places that are known as infamous “sausage parties”.

These past few times I went out it looks like the ratios haven’t been as bad as they use to be even a year back. During this past year things have gotten really bad in the Economy. There has been hemorrhage of jobs in the Financial sector and the housing and real estate industry. All of these industries are male dominated. The wall street journal featured and article Why This Recession Is Hitting Men Harder which explained this in detail.

I think the WSJ is right and I think the New York area got hit especially hard. So what does this have to do with clubs and bars? The last few times I’ve been out, I noticed that the clubs weren’t as packed as they used to be and in some cases the ratios were almost even. A lot of men are probably opting out of the club and bar scene during the recession because they’re feeling the pinch.

But it get’s even better… The popular ladies nights which no one use to pay attention to in the past now get a lot more respect. Ladies get in free before certain hours to many of the tri-states best clubs, and they also get drink specials. I tested my theory out and decided to check out club all-zone in Roselle, NJ on ladies night. I got there as soon as they opened the door and I was totally right. For the next hour the place filled up with women who didn’t want to pay to get in after 10:30. The guys didn’t start showing up until 11:00 or so, but the I had about an hour and a half of time where there were many more women then men in the club (although eventually it evened up).

So the moral of the story:

1. Ratios in bars and clubs might be getting better because guys are feeling the pinch more then women.

2. Go early on ladies nights because a lot more ladies are trying to get in for free and take advantage of drink specials during this recession. You’ll have an hour or two of great ratios, and virtually no competition!

Good luck!

Dan DeLa Cruz