International Dating with Foreign Women - All Hype Or The Real Deal?

Anyone who doesn't really read and understand my material might get offended by some of my points of view on American women, and some of the things I say on my blog and in my books, for example my stance on obesity. Others who don't take the time to understand my material will think I'm exaggerating, or making all of this up, for example why foreign are a better option. Aside from the haters, most guys agree with me and appreciate the information I share in my books and blog. Most men who travel, have been abroad or have dated a foreign woman, agree 100% with my philosophy, my material and my approach to dating. I can say without a doubt that I've helped hundreds of men open their eyes to international dating, and they all thank me for it.

The core of my approach to women is to focus on the environment. Everything else is secondary. If dating attractive, feminine women who will appreciate you, be attentive to your needs and who will treat you like a king is your priority, then it's best to put yourself in an environment where all your efforts will give you the highest return on investment. It's all about ROI. Do you want to work twice, three times or ten times as hard to achieve this result? You wouldn't want to work twice as hard to earn the same salary, why would you want to take this approach to one of the most important aspects of your life as a man?

There are many reasons why dating environments and male-female dynamics differ from country to country and region to region in the world. In the first part of my book The Global Dating Revolution, I explain all of these reasons, I lay out my case with concrete examples, real world statistics, case studies, and hard core facts. After reading the first part of my book you will understand the three basic causes of environmental differences. I'll list all three along with one example of each and how it could effect your dating environment.

Demographic Differences:
One example of a demographic difference is the ratio of men to women in a country or region. Certain parts of the world simply have better ratios for men. Other parts of the world have better demographics for women. It's a known fact that countries like the Ukraine and Russia have a shortage of men which means the women in those countries have a much tougher time in the dating game. Here is quote taken from the library of congress:

"Most of the demographic disasters that have beset Russia in the twentieth century have affected primarily males. In 1992 the sex ratio was 884 males per 1,000 females; in the years between 1994 and 2005, the imbalance is projected to increase slightly to a ratio of 875 males per 1,000 females (see table 7, Appendix). Gender disparity has increased because of a sharp drop in life expectancy for Russian males, from sixty-five years in 1987 to fifty-seven in 1994."

Apart from ratios there are other demographic differences which can greatly effect your dating environment. This is just one example but when you add up two, three or four demographic advantages available in some regions, you can start to imagine the great benefit in being somewhere where the demographics are in your favor and not against you.

Cultural Differences:
There are many cultural differences that will effect the way women react towards men and treat men in certain cultures. The single most important difference in culture between countries like the United States and regions of the world which I feel offer the best dating environments is feminism. Feminism in many western countries has taught women to become more masculine, combative, and less feminine. However, this movement hasn't really taken hold in places like Latin America, Eastern Europe and South East Asia. In these regions of the world women are still the feminine creatures they were meant to be. They won't hide their emotions, they won't feel weak for cultivating or expressing their femininity. In the United States however, many women feel being feminine is a sign of weakness. Most men who have date foreign women from the regions I recommend, have expressed the same views, and prefer feminine foreign women, as opposed to masculine American women.

Socio-Economic Differences:
Another great force that is often overlooked but effects certain dating environments greatly are the socio-economic forces. One great example of this is immigration. There are a great deal of people that don't really appreciate how much immigration can effect the dating environments of the two regions effected by the immigration. Lets take a look at one specific region: The Americas. During the past 50 or so years we've seen massive amounts of immigration from Latin America to North America, not to mention the immigration of people from other parts of the world to United States. Millions upon millions of migrants have moved to North America.

The fact is that men outnumber women in this migration by a factor of 2 to 1 maybe even 3 to 1. The biggest differences are in the illegal migration of men, which is almost entirely made up of men and is harder to account for and work into these statistics. This isn't something that is isolated to the United States. Europe has seen a flood of male migrants from Eastern European countries such as Turkey, as well as from Northern Europe and Latin America. But, you might be asking what does this have to do with the dating environment?

If millions of young men move into your back yard, that means more competition for you. But back in the regions where these men are coming from, you'll find all of the women that were left behind, who are now single, and who probably have a tougher time dating men because many of the men who would have been prime candidates in their age range, have gone abroad in search of work.

Bottom Line:
The bottom line is that when you take into account all of these environment differences in different dating environments around the world, you can get a broad picture of the whether the environment is favorable to the men or favorable to the women.

When it's boiled down to it's simplest form, my approach to dating looks something like this:

Let's say there are two night clubs in town. Both night clubs have the same crowds every night.

Club "A" always has 100 guys and 50 women. In this club the ratios are in favor of the women and obviously the odds are against you.

Club "B" is a bit far, but even though it takes longer to drive there, this club always has 100 women, and 50 guys inside.

Each club has a different environment, club A favors the women overall, and club B favors the men. All other things being equal, any guy in his right mind would want to be in club B. There may be a small amount of hyper-competitive men who like the lesser odds and the competition in club A, but for the most part, most men will prefer to be in club B where there are 2 women for every man.

My approach to dating is to find the club B's of this world. In other words, find the best places for men around the world. These are places where the environment puts the dating game in their favor, and these are places where dating, relationships and romance stop being so difficult and become more natural, and easy (at least from man's point of view).

Through my book "The Global Dating Revolution" I explain why these best places are Latin America, Eastern Europe and South East Asia. I explain in full detail the obstacles and pitfalls that many uninformed men run into and I also guide you step by step through the world of International Dating and cross cultural romance.

Other Factors:
Apart from all of the examples listed above, being a foreigner in a foreign land gives you a heads up against the local men, and a great appeal amongst the women, for many reasons as well. There are many other factors at play here, too many to list in one post but let's just say that when you add everything up, the sum is often greater then the parts, and meeting and dating women abroad is the real deal.

Taking The Bus In Barranquilla Vs Taking The Bus In New York

I was on my way to a mall to do some grocery shopping. I was dressed casual, nothing fancy. A blue hat, a white t-shirt, some blue jeans and my comfy sneakers. Most of the time I would have taken a taxi, but this time I decided to take the bus for kicks. Sometimes taking the bus can be a great way to meet women.

I knew where the bus stop was, a few blocks over. As I got closer I noticed a very nice looking woman who was dressed like she had just gotten out of work from the office. She was looking very professional yet attractive. I sort of knew what bus to take, and what to do, but I decided to ask her for help just to see if I could start a conversation.

I asked her if this was where I can take the bus, and she said told me that it was. I made a comment that I didn't know the bus routes yet, so I had to ask around all the time, I said this with a smile. She asked where I'm from? And I told her I was from the U.S. and that I was just visiting. I asked her if she was from Barranquilla and she mentioned that she wasn't. She was from a city about 3 hours away, but she was living there because of work and University.

At this point we had only talked for about 30 seconds and bus came. I let her get in first and she sat down at on the first seats. I got on and paid my bus fair and then sat across the isle, but right next to her. After I sat down she got up, and paid her fair, and then sat down in the isle behind me. I was about to put my right arm back and over the chair so I could turn and still engage her in conversation, but before I could move, she asked me to come sit next to her. This was a surprise. I've spoken with women in New York and New Jersey on the bus before, I've never had a woman ask me to come sit next to her.

I take a seat next to her and we chat some more for about 2 minutes before we get to our final destination. It turns out we were both going to the mall. She was going to meet a friend to talk about a job opportunity and I was going to do my grocery shopping. When I mentioned the grocery shopping she mentioned that if I wanted one day she would come help me do some shopping because she knew where to get the best prices. Again, another surprise: An attractive young professional, educated woman offering to help me with my groceries only minutes after meeting me. I thanked her and told her I'd take her up on her offer. We exchanged a few more sentences and then she invited me over for lunch the next day at her apartment. She asked me if I had a phone, and of course I do, so she asked me to take down her number and call her the next morning so we can arrange a time for lunch.

I use to work in New York, and I use to take the bus into the city from various places in New Jersey, and back to New Jersey from New York. I struck up conversations with many women on the bus, at the port authority, and bus stops, but in my five plus years working in the city and taking the bus to work, I never had an interaction that flowed as easily, and effortlessly as this one.

This is just one of many examples of what the women are like in foreign countries. YES I know not every interaction will be this positive or flow this effortlessly, but it just goes to show you what's possible with international dating and foreign women. Even if just 2 out of every 10 interactions flow like this in Colombia, back in New Jersey/New York, it's never this easy, effortless, and fun!

Obesity: One of the Reasons It's Harder to Date Attractive Women

A large chunk of my first book, The Global Dating Revolution, revolves around explaining the differences between different dating environments around the world. The truth is dating environments in various regions around the world differ for many reasons. Some reasons are economic, some are cultural, some are demographic, I get in the nitty gritty of all of this in my book. I call these negative environmental differences (from a man's point of view), handicaps or sometimes "whammies." If you can think of a better name for them please let me know!

One of the most frightening handicaps in the United States and other wealthy regions of the world is the obesity problem. The following excerpt is taken from page 72 of The Global Dating Revolution:

As the chapter continues I go onto explain some of the other effects obesity has on your dating environment. Keep in mind this is only one of the many handicaps that you might be facing in your local dating environment. Of course there will always be some men that can overcome all the handicaps and date many attractive women, but not everyone can be Michael Jordan.

But in places like Costa Rica, Colombia, Brazil, Ukraine, Russia and others, obesity and other handicaps aren't as big of an issue or present at all. These are the REAL reasons why the dating environment in many foreign countries is actually skewed towards the men, instead of towards the women, like it is in most places in the USA.

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Why Competition Between Foreign Women Breeds Excellence

In the study of Economics you will learn that competition within a market will bring about better products at lower prices for the consumer. The basic principal behind this is that competition breeds excellence. It's true in the business world, it's true in nature, and it's also true in our dating environments.

The truth about this world is that not all dating environments are created equal. Some regions and countries drastically favor men, while other drastically favor women. There are many economic and cultural forces at play which result in these pro-male and pro-female environments. I detail my research in the first part of my book "The Global Dating Revolution" as to why countries such as Canada, U.K., Australia, New Zealand, Germany, and United States are pro-female or anti-male regions. Often in my book I distinguish between these two regions by calling them Upper and Lower tiers, based on their economic classification.

If you're dating just about anywhere in the U.S. you'll be competing for women but with handicaps. This extreme competition among men will force you to improve yourself or be left out of the race. While there are many men who just can't hang with the big boys in this rat race, there are plenty of willing competitors and this breeds an army of eligible bachelors in a tough dating environment for men. For any woman in this dating environment practically everything is in their favor. Any attractive girl in this pro-female environment will have everything practically handed to her, and the lack of obstacles for the women causes them to be complacent. Many gain wieght, they don't take care of themselves, and many of them don't' improve themselves because they know or feel that the handicaps are not on them, but on the men. This is the ying, now it's time to look at the yang.

All you have to do is reverse this scenario when you look at places like Eastern Europe, Latin America and South East Asia. These regions are pro-male regions, and regions of the world where the intense competition is not between the males, but between the females. For this reason foreign women tend to put more time into staying in shape, and into their looks. They put more effort into keeping their men happy, and more effort into flirting and getting a man. While it's almost impossible to find an very attractive American girl who will act needy towards you, it's almost commonplace to run into this in these foreign regions where women have to climb "up hill." The truth is that if you want to find the best dating pools in the world you have to go to places where the women are competing for the men, and these places are South East Asia, Latin America, and Eastern Europe.

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