An American Girls Reaction To The International Dating Lifestyle

I found myself in an Interesting conversation with an American girl a few days ago. When she found about my traveling lifestyle and my interest in foreign women some common stereotypes and misconceptions surfaced in the conversation.

At one point in the conversation I mentioned that I had been to Brazil and was planning on going back. Her eye’s flared a bit; at her learning that someone would dare travel into a country such as Brazil. Apparently one of her best guy friends had married a Brazilian lady and traveled to Brazil himself. According to this guy he had a great time, and that doesn’t surprise me, but it didn’t seem to convince this American girl one bit that Brazil could just be a nice place, with nice people, good food and good weather, not to mention amazing women.

I got a kick when she told me to “watch out for the women” because “they’re just out in the streets,” whatever that meant. She also threw in the typical AIDS rate myth telling me that many of those girls have AIDS. I just smiled and tried to explain to her that this wasn’t the case. In fact here are the most recent AIDS numbers according to the world health organization:

United States:
Estimate Adult HIV Prevalence 2007: 0.6%
Number of People Living With HIV 2007: 1,200,000
Percentage of Population Living With HIV 2007: 3.9%

Brazil:
Estimate Adult HIV Prevalence 2007: 0.6%
Number of People Living With HIV 2007: 730,000
Percentage of Population Living With HIV 2007: 3.8%

You can view these numbers for yourself at the world health organization websites, the CIA fact book or even wikipedia:
1. Wikipedia AIDS Adult Prevalence
2. World Health Organization AIDS Country Information
3. CIA World Fact Book People Living With Aids

All in all Brazil ranks along side countries like Spain, United States, Italy, France, and Argentina when it comes to the spread of AIDS within it’s population. If you’re going to be sexually active, you have just as much risk and exposure to AIDS in Brazil then in any of these countries.

I found it pretty amusing that even to this day, with good information available for free and easily accessible format online, from reliable government and international agencies, countries like Brazil still get a bad rap. In any case, I shrugged off her comment and moved on in the conversation.

It turns out that we did agree on something about Brazil when another topic came up. While we were talking about her guy friend who married a Brazilian girl, she mentioned that this guy had traveled to Brazil with his wife and that other Brazilian girls were hitting on her husband right in her face! I got a kick out of that and I can totally see that happening, but that’s just the nature of the Brazilian dating scene. Girls are very aggressive in countries like Brazil, Colombia, and Costa Rica and I agreed with her that this was the case.

Finally the conversation shifted to the fact that I’m a U.S. citizen that this girl made a comment that “I’m a ticket out” which is the only reason why these women would be Interested in me, so I’d better watch out. Again, another one of the famous stereotypes about foreign women: They’re only out to get a U.S. citizenship.

I can’t explain all the reasons why this is another false allegation in one small blog post, you can get all the details in my book “The Global Dating Revolution.” But I’ll point out to the simple fact that foreign guys don’t have U.S. citizenship, yet all studies, and research shows that foreign guys have better love lives then American men? The reason for this is because they’re surrounded their entire lives by quality, attractive foreign women who have to claw and scratch for their (the guys) attention. The dating scene abroad far favors the men over the women, so while there may be a few vixens looking for a ticket out, the interest, smiles, and flirting you receive from foreign women is in most part due to the dating environment these women live in.

It was an interesting conversation indeed, and I think it typifies the interactions some of you may have when speaking to friends, family and co-workers about traveling abroad to meet women. I hope that through my book and blog I can arm you with the right knowledge to refute these falls claims and allegations about foreign women and foreign countries.
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5 Things I Wish I Knew About Women and Dating When I Was 22

If I had a time machine I wish I could go back in time to advise my younger self to do things differently when it comes to women and dating. Knowing what I know today I could have saved thousands of dollars, untold amounts of energy, and tons of effort. Even though I had an average love life, I can just imagine what things would be like if I had focused my time en energy not on spending to impress the local ladies, but saving to invest international dating.

1. The International dating scene is 10 times better then the best dating scene in the U.S. I can go on and on about why this is the case, but that’s just the way it is these days. Someday 100 years from today, this may not be the case, but as it stands today, if you really want to supercharge your love life international dating is the way to go.

2. There are millions of available foreign women online, and they’re eager to meet regular guys. Every day more and more foreign women make it online. The sheer numbers of foreign women available online is staggering and the figure gets larger every day. You don’t need to travel any longer to meet foreign women. You can meet them from the comfort of your own home, and decide to travel later.

3. Traveling is not as expensive as it seems. Considering that you can a ticket to Costa Rica for sometimes as low as $200 dollars round trip from New York to San Jose, travel is not expensive as it seems. When I was younger I didn’t know you could stay at hostels for as little as $5 dollars a day (Sometimes less), or that tickets could be so cheap. If you’re really on tight budget there’s still ways to swing a trip. Back when I was 22 I would routinely spend $100-$200 just on a single night out to New York City. If I could cut back on weekend expenses for a month I’d have enough for a 1 or 2 weeks stay in Costa Rica.

4. Foreign women are naturally friendly and no extra mind games are needed to meet and date them. When I was 22 I was certain that “seduction” tactics were necessary to get anywhere with women. I didn’t realize that they’re only necessary in places where the dating scene is stacked against you. In places like this you need something to stand out, and if you don’t have the looks or money, you’re going to need some routines, mental mind games, and be able to talk your way into romance. This isn’t necessary abroad. A simple Eminem style “Hi, my name is…” will do just fine. The foreign women will take care of rest.

5. It’s all about ROI. If you want to be successful in any part of life you have to look at the return on investment. Today I know that the ROI for trying to dating locally here in New York/New Jersey really isn’t all that great. So I invest my money, time and energy in the international dating scene. It’s the same reason why many investors are now investing their money abroad and not in U.S. stocks and assets. The ROI of foreign investments has been much greater in the past few years. So when it comes to my love life, I now prefer to invest in international dating and foreign women.

If you were giving advice to your 22 year self about women and dating, what would it be?

Why Do Foreign Men Have Kids And Marry At Much Younger Ages Then American Men?

I’ve traveled extensively through Latin America, and I have family in a few different Latin countries. I’ve also lived and worked in Northern New Jersey for large part of my life. So I have a very good grasp of both Latin American culture and the culture here in the United States. Over the years I’ve noticed that my male friends, cousins, and uncles in Latin America usually get married and have kids at earlier ages then my American friends and family.

In general there seems to be a pattern where foreign males tend to have kids and get married a lot sooner then American males. Out of all my male friends in the U.S. very few got married in their late teens or early twenties, and only a few were married and had kids in their later 20’s. In fact, I’d say more then half of my friends in their 30’s here in the U.S. are single, maybe dating, but not married and have no kids.

So what gives? Why are these foreign guys procreating and marrying at earlier ages? Is it the water? Do they have a higher sperm count? All joking aside, I do think there are a few main reasons for this difference, but I think the biggest reason is this:

In Latin America men have much better dating options and they start meeting and dating women, even having sex at much younger ages. They enter the dating game much sooner, and they get more playing time, so eventually something happens and they up having kids and/or getting married.

I think some people would argue that Latin American men get married sooner because they might not use as much contraception, as American men, and then they get a girl pregnant, and they have to marry her. There probably is some small truth to this, but this scenario didn’t play out with any of my friends or family who are already married in Latin America.

And let’s not forget something else… I’ve met many, and I mean many men who have may have been dating in the U.S. and other countries such as Canada, Australia and England, but they’ve never been married there. These men step into Latin America, and after a few months of working there, or living there, they end up getting married? How do you explain that? The Internet is riddled with stories of workers, expats, students, volunteers, and vacationers who end up getting married to the sweet women they meet during their stay in Latin America. Seems like too much of a coincidence in my book…

I’ve been studying and researching phenomenon’s like this for many years, and my gut tells me that these men who were never married and who get married when they spend some time in Latin America do so because in Latin America they have access to quality, attractive, down to earth women. It’s something that very few American’s, Western Europeans, or our other counterparts, have access to at home.

Now imagine if you grew up in Latin America and had access to quality attractive women ever since you were young enough to start chasing women… Maybe you would be married and settled by now too? It’s something to think about, and it’s just another one of those dichotomies between the anti-male and pro-male regions of this world.

How To Meet Colombian Girls In Your Back Yard

Colombia has about 4 million of it’s citizens living outside of the country. A vast majority of those Colombian’s live in and around Miami, and the New York Metro area. Although more men then women migrate abroad from Colombia, I’m never disappointed when I attend a Colombia festival in the New York area, even if it’s just to enjoy the view, some good food, and the festive atmosphere. I’m sure it’s no different in Miami and other Colombian communities around the U.S. and around the world.

Colombian’s, like all Latin American’s love to party, and they love to celebrate their independence day. There’s nothing better then celebrating these festivities in Colombia, but this is definitely the next best thing.

A little About Colombian Independence:
If you want to meet some Colombian girls right in your own back yard some of these special dates, like Colombian Independence day are perfect so that you can get your feet wet. I suggest going with some Colombian friends if you have any, but it’s a friendly atmosphere and you can go to any of these places without a problem.

On July 20, 1810, the citizens of Bogota formed the first representative council to withstand Spanish authority, and achieved full independence in 1810. The struggle for independence in Columbia received an impetus led by great freedom fighters Simon Bolivar and Francisco de Paula Santander in New Granada which resulted in the Battle of Boyaca, on August 7, 1819. Bolívar was subsequently elected as the first president of Greater Columbia and Francisco de Paula Santander, as its vice president.

The Independence Day of Colombia is celebrated with unequaled festive fervor throughout Colombia, and throughout the many Colombian communities found in the United States, across Europe, and other locations around the world. The day falls on 20th July every year when all the offices, schools and college establishments remain closed. Various festivals and events are held on this occasion at different cities and towns of the country. It’s also the time to organize events highlighting the traditional folk dances and songs of the region.

Here in the New York area, which holds one of largest Colombian communities, festivals, parties and concerts abound.

Without a doubt if you want to see some Colombian women up close and personal, without having to go all the way to Colombia, you should attend any one of these places. Now if you want to learn how you may be able to date a Colombian girl, or any foreign girl here in States, I’m working on a guide that will give you my top secret tactics that no else is using to meet foreign women right your back yard.

Just to give you an idea of how celebrated these festivals are in New York/New Jersey Area, here are a few fliers I’ve picked up around the area. I know it’s a little late for you guys to take advantage of, but make a note for next year, and you should have my guide by then which will leave you well equipped to dive into these festivals.

Later,

Dan DeLa Cruz

Bars And Clubs During The Recession

Are clubs getting better for guys during the recession? I think they are and here’s why.

I’m back in New Jersey for a few weeks and I went out to a few bars and clubs recently. If you’ve read my material you know that I pay a lot of attention to male/female ratios on the nights I go out. I like to pick places where the odds are in my favor or at least even. I hate going to places that are known as infamous “sausage parties”.

These past few times I went out it looks like the ratios haven’t been as bad as they use to be even a year back. During this past year things have gotten really bad in the Economy. There has been hemorrhage of jobs in the Financial sector and the housing and real estate industry. All of these industries are male dominated. The wall street journal featured and article Why This Recession Is Hitting Men Harder which explained this in detail.

I think the WSJ is right and I think the New York area got hit especially hard. So what does this have to do with clubs and bars? The last few times I’ve been out, I noticed that the clubs weren’t as packed as they used to be and in some cases the ratios were almost even. A lot of men are probably opting out of the club and bar scene during the recession because they’re feeling the pinch.

But it get’s even better… The popular ladies nights which no one use to pay attention to in the past now get a lot more respect. Ladies get in free before certain hours to many of the tri-states best clubs, and they also get drink specials. I tested my theory out and decided to check out club all-zone in Roselle, NJ on ladies night. I got there as soon as they opened the door and I was totally right. For the next hour the place filled up with women who didn’t want to pay to get in after 10:30. The guys didn’t start showing up until 11:00 or so, but the I had about an hour and a half of time where there were many more women then men in the club (although eventually it evened up).

So the moral of the story:

1. Ratios in bars and clubs might be getting better because guys are feeling the pinch more then women.

2. Go early on ladies nights because a lot more ladies are trying to get in for free and take advantage of drink specials during this recession. You’ll have an hour or two of great ratios, and virtually no competition!

Good luck!

Dan DeLa Cruz