Don’t Be An Emotional Tampon

I met this girl recently and I went over her house to hang out for a bit. We were talking and getting to know each other when all of sudden we stumbled onto an interesting topic. She told me a story about a guy “friend” that she “use” to have, and the whole time she was telling me this story, I couldn’t help but cringe for the poor guy.

I’ve shortened the story up to get to the point and it basically goes like this: The girl gets married and it doesn’t work out, and she’s heart broken and emotionally torn up. The divorce is nasty and she’s going through the toughest period in her life. In comes along this other dude who obviously wants wants to be more than “just friends” but who never mans up and verbalizes it or makes any attempt to let her know that he wants to get intimate with her. The girl basically uses him for two years. She admits that he came in at the right time, and helped her through this rough period. He took her out, spent time with her, took care of her, listened to her problems, and she considered him a “friend”.

All the time she was telling me this, I knew the guy wasn’t just trying to be her friend. Obviously he wanted more, but I guess he was just too afraid to let her know.

Fast forward two years, and finally after two years of being a “friend,” he let’s his true intentions be known. He lets her know that he really likes her and that he wants to be with her. What do you think happened?

Basically, she stopped talking to him. And the poor guy, now that he let the rabbit out of the hat, keeps hitting on her more then ever.

Never be the emotional tampon.

This poor guys #1 mistake was that he waited two years for his real intentions to be known. Please don’t make this mistake. If you’re attracted to a woman, you have to let her know in one way or another that you want to move things forward. Compliment her on whatever you find attractive. Let her know you think she’s attractive. Try to kiss her. Keep moving things forward. Obviously, waiting for a few dates to do this is fine, but don’t wait TWO freaking years!

But what if she rejects you?

Be thankful that she rejects you! Not every girl you meet and go out with will be interested in sleeping with you or having a relationship with you. If she doesn’t feel the same way you feel about her, then just move on. Don’t waste your time. Rejection should be seen as a time saver. You don’t want to waste two years before you go for the kiss and then get the “let’s just be friends” line.

And speaking about the “let’s just be friends” line. If she really does want to be your friend and she’s not interested in you romantically, then tell her to hook you up with some of her friends. If she doesn’t want to do that for you, is she really you friend? Or is she just trying to use you? I think you know the answer to that one.

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