When To Dress Up And When Not To Dress Up

You’ve probably read me blog posts on safety and dressing in Latin America.

This should give you an overall view of how to dress but there’s a bit more to it then what I’ve mentioned in the past. The thing is that it’s difficult to condense everything into two small blog posts. And if you know me a bit already, you know that I’d rather fall short on the side of safety. That’s why I usually recommend people in general not to dress to flashy.

But dressing down isn’t always good, even though it might be safe. It all depends on where your going. I’ll lay out some examples based on Colombian experience so far this year:

• Cartagena Old City: Dress Up
• Medellin 33: Dess Normal
• Medellin El Poblado: Dress Normal or Dress Up
• Medellin Mangos: Dress Up
• Barranquilla 82 & North: Dress Normal or Dress Up
• Anywhere in Colombia stratus 4: Dress Normal
• Anywhere in Colombia stratus 2-3: Dress Down

In the above examples I’ve layed out three ways of dressing:

• Dressing Up: Some Jewlery, Nice watch, Chain, Rings, Button Down Collard Shirt, Nice Shoes (Depending on the city and locale a suite)
• Dressing Normal: Maybe No Jewlery (Depends), Not too many accessories, Possible Button Down or Brand Name T-Shirt, Shoes or Sneakers
• Dress Down: No Jewlerly, Sneakers, Normal T-Shirt

If it’s your first time someplace and you’re not sure where you’re going or how the people dress there, I recommend you error on the side of safety. If anything you can dress down go back to your place and dress up and come back to the place.

In general my safety and dressing tips recommend guys to dress down so they won’t stand out and so that their safety will be the most important outcome. However, as you spend more time in Latin America and as you get more comfortable with your surroundings and get a better feeling of how safe the places you frequent are, you can elect to dress up a bit more.

Whenever you do this, do so incrementally. Don’t go all decked-out on the first night. Upgrade little by little. Dressing up definitely does help with the higher class ladies, and it’s a luxury worth taking part in, especially in foreign countries, just remember to always start on the safe side and ease into it.

Don’t Be An Emotional Tampon

I met this girl recently and I went over her house to hang out for a bit. We were talking and getting to know each other when all of sudden we stumbled onto an interesting topic. She told me a story about a guy “friend” that she “use” to have, and the whole time she was telling me this story, I couldn’t help but cringe for the poor guy.

I’ve shortened the story up to get to the point and it basically goes like this: The girl gets married and it doesn’t work out, and she’s heart broken and emotionally torn up. The divorce is nasty and she’s going through the toughest period in her life. In comes along this other dude who obviously wants wants to be more than “just friends” but who never mans up and verbalizes it or makes any attempt to let her know that he wants to get intimate with her. The girl basically uses him for two years. She admits that he came in at the right time, and helped her through this rough period. He took her out, spent time with her, took care of her, listened to her problems, and she considered him a “friend”.

All the time she was telling me this, I knew the guy wasn’t just trying to be her friend. Obviously he wanted more, but I guess he was just too afraid to let her know.

Fast forward two years, and finally after two years of being a “friend,” he let’s his true intentions be known. He lets her know that he really likes her and that he wants to be with her. What do you think happened?

Basically, she stopped talking to him. And the poor guy, now that he let the rabbit out of the hat, keeps hitting on her more then ever.

Never be the emotional tampon.

This poor guys #1 mistake was that he waited two years for his real intentions to be known. Please don’t make this mistake. If you’re attracted to a woman, you have to let her know in one way or another that you want to move things forward. Compliment her on whatever you find attractive. Let her know you think she’s attractive. Try to kiss her. Keep moving things forward. Obviously, waiting for a few dates to do this is fine, but don’t wait TWO freaking years!

But what if she rejects you?

Be thankful that she rejects you! Not every girl you meet and go out with will be interested in sleeping with you or having a relationship with you. If she doesn’t feel the same way you feel about her, then just move on. Don’t waste your time. Rejection should be seen as a time saver. You don’t want to waste two years before you go for the kiss and then get the “let’s just be friends” line.

And speaking about the “let’s just be friends” line. If she really does want to be your friend and she’s not interested in you romantically, then tell her to hook you up with some of her friends. If she doesn’t want to do that for you, is she really you friend? Or is she just trying to use you? I think you know the answer to that one.

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How To Dress When Traveling Through Latin America

Throughout my book The Global Dating Revolution, I give a lot of tips and advice for those of you that will take the leap into International Dating and actually travel abroad to see what the women are like in other countries.

On Page 250 of The Global Dating Revolution I give the following tips on dressing while your traveling through Latin America. I feel most of these will be applicable to Eastern Europe and South East Asia as well:

Don’t dress like a tourist, with shorts, loud Hawaiian shirt and camera around your neck. Dress casual or business casual with a nice pair of khakis, jeans and either a nice button down shirt or nice t-shirt. Dress for your body type. If you’re very thin, you might want to wear more then one layer, and don’t wear clothes that are too loose fitting. By the same token if you’re a husky guy, no horizontal stripped shirts and nothing that’s too tight:

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What Happens If You Get A Foreign Woman Pregnant?

I stumbled onto a question on yahoo answers from someone who may have gotten a foreign woman pregnant and now wants to know what could possibly be consequences immigration wise and with child support.

The question got me thinking about a few important aspects of traveling abroad that need to addressed. Here goes:

#1. American men, and men from other similar countries like Canada, Australia, and the UK have astounding reputations with foreign women. Women look up to us as the cream of the crop when it comes to men. We’re seen in general as highly educated, considerate, and ambitious among other things. Foreign women look at us much in the same way many of us look at foreign women as the best this world has to offer. Let’s not ruin our excellent reputation by acting without discretion or integrity when we travel abroad.

#2. Let’s not give the feminist movement anymore excuses to put barriers in our way to meeting foreign women. There are people in this world who would love nothing more then to ban 100% all your interaction with foreign women. Acting irresponsibly while traveling abroad, especially in your interactions with foreign women will only add fuel to the fire, and give these people more amo to put up more barriers. The International Marriage Broker Regulation Act is just one small example of the draconian measures that could be placed on your freedom to take part in international dating and meeting foreign women.

#3. Don’t take it out on these sweet foreign women. I know some of us might have a bit of resentment or bitterness towards women in general because I know a lot of us have gone through some tough times with our local women. Nasty divorces, custody battles, child support, bad breakups, alimony, cheating girlfriends, I know, I know. When you travel abroad make sure you don’t take it out on the foreign ladies because they seriously don’t deserve it.

#4. Use protection. I shouldn’t have to say this but some guys might need to hear it. It’s not worth the risk of STDs or getting a girl pregnant. It’s just the responsible thing to do.

#5. If a condom breaks or you get a foreign girl pregnant somehow I would hope that you do the responsible thing. If there is one bright side to a situation like this, it’s that fathering a child abroad would probably be much much cheaper then fathering a child in the U.S. or Canada, etc.

#6. When in doubt, act with Integrity. Foreign women are the sweetest most feminine creatures on this planet, they deserve to be treated with honesty, kindness, and respect. Let’s give them the best we have to offer. If any women deserve this treatment it’s definitely them!

I personally don’t know whether the guy asking the question just had a bad “break” with a condom or what, but for those of you wondering what the consequences might be, I did a bit of research and came up with this answer:

If you have a child support assessment or court order or child maintenance order from an overseas country that has an agreement with your country of residence (I’m assuming it’s the U.S.), the overseas authority can request the U.S. Child Support Agency to collect the child support from you. Now I’m not a lawyer, so I would suggest getting professional legal advice to get the definitive answer.

Foreign Women Only Want Your Money

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There are many ways to dubunk the myth that foreign women only treat you well for your money or to get ticket out the country. While gold-diggers and scammers do exist, they are in a very tiny minority. Foreign women don’t reserve this special treatment, just for you. They treat their local men, just as good as they will treat you. So it’s not just about the money as you will soon find out.

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One of the biggest myths out there about foreign women is that they’re all looking for a ticket out of their country, and they all want your money and a green card. There are many ways to disprove this point of view but today I want to focus on just one of those ways.

First of all, I’d like to say that there are gold diggers out there and there are women who may be looking for a ticket out. So, I would suggest getting to know the person as thoroughly as possible and getting my book “The Global Dating Revolution”, which will give you everything you need to know so that you don’t get snagged by a scammer. But the reality is that scammers are everywhere these days, and it’s a fact of life no matter where you go or what you do.

The good news is that scammers make a very small percentage of foreign women, and most foreign women are nice, decent girls who just want to find the right guy.
By now you must know that one of my biggest points is that foreign women are they way they are because of the environment they live in. It’s an environment that totally favors men, whereas the environment YOU live in favors women.

When you go into a foreign girls home turf, you enter a complete role reversal from what you are use to where you live back at home. Back at home, you’ve always had to fight for the girl and fight to keep her, and it’s always been an uphill battle. You may never have noticed this, because you’ve never lived in a place like the Philippines, or Colombia, so you never had a point of reference. Now, if you’ve already traveled you’ve probably started to notice this role reversal on your travels, and you might have an idea of what I’m talking about.

So, what I want to do, is challenge you right now. I want you to go out into your neighborhood, or find someone in your job or in your social circle who is from one of these regions. I want you to find someone who basically grew up and has lived in Costa Rica, Colombia, Brazil, Philippines, Thailand, Ukraine, Russia, or any of the other countries located in those regions. And what I want you to do is talk to that person and ask them how the dating scene is back in their homeland. Maybe take them out for a beer and if it’s a guy, ask the dude, so how are the women back in your country?

I can put money, a lot of money that if you talk to a guy from another country, the guy will probably confirm that back in his country, the women are more attractive, friendlier and more accessible. And you can talk to any Colombian guy, Brazilian guy, Filipino guy, Russian guy, they will say the same thing. When it comes to women, you can’t beat their homeland.

But here is the funny thing. If you happen to meet a woman from these regions and you ask them the same thing. Most of these women will have an opposite view. They find that they like the dating scene, and the men of here a lot more then back at home.

Don’t take my word for it. Do some research of your own. Talk to people that have traveled extensively, people that are from the regions that I describe in my material, and find out for your self.

So what’s my point in all of this? What I want to show you is that any man that comes from let’s say Costa Rica, will tell you that when he was in Costa Rica, he had a great time with women. He was in control. If he wanted flings, he had them. If he wanted something long term he had that too. Same goes for guys in Brazil and guys in Argentina, etc. Even better, when you travel, talk to some of the local Brazilian guys who still live down there, and they will confirm the same sentiment.

So my point is that all of the men down there have a great life, as far as women are concerned. This is all due to the fact that they happen to live in a place that offers them great advantages over the opposite sex. So if all of the Brazilian guys are doing great with women, and you step into the mix in Brazil, why wouldn’t you do good? If a regular Brazilian guy has success down there? Then why does everyone, attribute your success to gold digging? Aren’t you a man also?

My point is that all of the men down there enjoy these environmental advantages and the main reason that foreign women will be more open and friendly to you is because when you step into that environment, you automatically enjoy the same advantages that all of the other Latin American, Eastern European, and South East Asian men share.

Now the icing on the cake, is that as a man who speaks English, and traveling from an economically advanced nation, you will enjoy a positive perception from the women because of your culture, your native language, and where your coming from. This is just the added bonus, on top of the other advantages you will already have in your favor.