An American Girls Reaction To The International Dating Lifestyle

I found myself in an Interesting conversation with an American girl a few days ago. When she found about my traveling lifestyle and my interest in foreign women some common stereotypes and misconceptions surfaced in the conversation.

At one point in the conversation I mentioned that I had been to Brazil and was planning on going back. Her eye’s flared a bit; at her learning that someone would dare travel into a country such as Brazil. Apparently one of her best guy friends had married a Brazilian lady and traveled to Brazil himself. According to this guy he had a great time, and that doesn’t surprise me, but it didn’t seem to convince this American girl one bit that Brazil could just be a nice place, with nice people, good food and good weather, not to mention amazing women.

I got a kick when she told me to “watch out for the women” because “they’re just out in the streets,” whatever that meant. She also threw in the typical AIDS rate myth telling me that many of those girls have AIDS. I just smiled and tried to explain to her that this wasn’t the case. In fact here are the most recent AIDS numbers according to the world health organization:

United States:
Estimate Adult HIV Prevalence 2007: 0.6%
Number of People Living With HIV 2007: 1,200,000
Percentage of Population Living With HIV 2007: 3.9%

Brazil:
Estimate Adult HIV Prevalence 2007: 0.6%
Number of People Living With HIV 2007: 730,000
Percentage of Population Living With HIV 2007: 3.8%

You can view these numbers for yourself at the world health organization websites, the CIA fact book or even wikipedia:
1. Wikipedia AIDS Adult Prevalence
2. World Health Organization AIDS Country Information
3. CIA World Fact Book People Living With Aids

All in all Brazil ranks along side countries like Spain, United States, Italy, France, and Argentina when it comes to the spread of AIDS within it’s population. If you’re going to be sexually active, you have just as much risk and exposure to AIDS in Brazil then in any of these countries.

I found it pretty amusing that even to this day, with good information available for free and easily accessible format online, from reliable government and international agencies, countries like Brazil still get a bad rap. In any case, I shrugged off her comment and moved on in the conversation.

It turns out that we did agree on something about Brazil when another topic came up. While we were talking about her guy friend who married a Brazilian girl, she mentioned that this guy had traveled to Brazil with his wife and that other Brazilian girls were hitting on her husband right in her face! I got a kick out of that and I can totally see that happening, but that’s just the nature of the Brazilian dating scene. Girls are very aggressive in countries like Brazil, Colombia, and Costa Rica and I agreed with her that this was the case.

Finally the conversation shifted to the fact that I’m a U.S. citizen that this girl made a comment that “I’m a ticket out” which is the only reason why these women would be Interested in me, so I’d better watch out. Again, another one of the famous stereotypes about foreign women: They’re only out to get a U.S. citizenship.

I can’t explain all the reasons why this is another false allegation in one small blog post, you can get all the details in my book “The Global Dating Revolution.” But I’ll point out to the simple fact that foreign guys don’t have U.S. citizenship, yet all studies, and research shows that foreign guys have better love lives then American men? The reason for this is because they’re surrounded their entire lives by quality, attractive foreign women who have to claw and scratch for their (the guys) attention. The dating scene abroad far favors the men over the women, so while there may be a few vixens looking for a ticket out, the interest, smiles, and flirting you receive from foreign women is in most part due to the dating environment these women live in.

It was an interesting conversation indeed, and I think it typifies the interactions some of you may have when speaking to friends, family and co-workers about traveling abroad to meet women. I hope that through my book and blog I can arm you with the right knowledge to refute these falls claims and allegations about foreign women and foreign countries.
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