Tips For Dating Latin Women: Tip #1

Tip #1: A Little Spanish or Portuguese Goes a Long Way:

Whether your dealing with a Latin women at home or abroad, you can use your lack of knowledge of her language to your advantage. This particular tip is especially useful if your dealing with a Latina at home where you both speak English or if your interacting with a Latin girl abroad who knows English. I’m assuming you’ll both be communicating mostly in English, but you’ll need to use the little Spanish or Portuguese that you know to add some flirtation and fun into the interaction.

One important thing to remember is that you don’t need to be fluent in either Spanish or Portuguese to make a good impression. Like the tittle states, a little knowledge of the language goes a long way. In fact you probably know some common phrases already, like: “gracias”, “como estas?”, and “estas muy bonita” (you are really cute). I bet you knew or have heard at least two out of those three phrases. If you put a little effort into it you can probably learn 20 to 30 phrases in a weeks time.

Most latina women will find your knowledge of her language very endearing. They may asked you where you learned that? Or compliment you on your knowledge of her language, even though it may be very little. You might get a chuckle because you pronounce something wrong or because you mixed words up. The point is to make your use of her language fun and lite hearted, but at the same time you must be interested in it, and willing to learn more, particularly from her. In many cases you can use your lack of knowledge of her language as an excuse to make her your language teacher. This can be a good reason to exchange phone numbers and contact information and an even better reason to setup another date.

Your lack of language fluency can also come in handy when you find yourself in those awkward moments when neither of you have something to say. A good safety net is to just think of something or look around and ask her how you say that in her language. Many Latin women will appreciate the fact that your taking time to learn her language and culture.

This tip applies to Latinas but it can also apply to other foreign women you may meet either locally or abroad. As long as you can communicate in another language with the foreign girl (most likely English), you can use your lack of knowledge of her native or second language as useful conversational tool.

The One Time I Got Scammed By A Girl In Colombia

This happened a few years ago but I think it’s a story worth telling. It’s a story about the only time I’ve been scammed by a girl in Latin America, and it happened in Colombia. I’m not signaling out Colombia or Colombian women, but I just happen to spend a lot of time in Colombia so it makes sense that here is where I would most likely be scammed for the first time.

Basically what happened is that I met this girl online and we talked for months. I was planning a trip to Medellin, and this was about four years ago. I was really attracted to this girl and I had seen her pictures and chatted with her on a web cam. The only problem was that she didn’t live in Medellin.

When I got to Medellin we kept in contact through phone calls and we flirted on the phone, she seemed like a normal trust worthy woman. I was debating whether or not to go see her in Bucaramanga, the city where she lived. I decided against it because I really didn’t want to take the bus all the way to her city so I suggested she come visit me.

She thought it was a great idea but she told me she didn’t have money. I suggested she try to get the money from someone, even borrow it, and that i would pay her ticket when she got here. Here’s where the story takes a twist. I never send money. But this particular instance I figured, “ahh what the hell it’s only $40 dollars.” That’s approximately what the buss ticket would cost.

I went to a western union and sent her the cash, I called her and gave her the code, everything seemed to be going along fine. She told me she would arrive on the bus about two days later.

Two days passed, I called, I waited. I called I waited, and nothing. I started to get the feeling I had been scammed. She never picked up my phone calls after that and I felt like a real sucker. I knew I shouldn’t have broken my rule of never sending money. Eventually I got her on the Messenger and I asked her what happened, I forgot exactly what she said but basically she said she couldn’t send the money back, and that she couldn’t come visit me either. I erased her from my phone and MSN messenger list and I never heard from here again.

If there’s one lesson to be learned from my story, it’s to: never send money. PERIOD. The second lesson to be learned is to: never break your rules for anyone.

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Barranquilla Trip Summary Part 1

Live in direct form Barranquilla, Colombia!

It’s been five weeks since I touched down in Barranquilla, and it’s been a hell of a time. Carnavales, good food, friendly caramel skinned ladies, and lots of sun… I can’t complain and I hope some of you guys can someday make the lifestyle change I’m in the process of making now. As the author of The Global Dating Revolution, I felt I really had to lead by example. I had a good, high paying, comfortable job back in New York but I left all that, including my apartment, and my girlfriend (I have a new girlfriend in Barranquilla, and a new apartment ), in order to prove to myself as well my readers that I don’t just talk the talk, I’m really walking the walk and am now living in Latin America. I don’t know if I’ll stay in Colombia longer then 6 months, I’ll play it by ear, but all I know is that I’ll be living somewhere in Latin America for the foreseeable future. So, I now give you part 1 of my recap of my five weeks here in Barranquilla Colombia.
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