Why Do Foreign Men Have Kids And Marry At Much Younger Ages Then American Men?

I’ve traveled extensively through Latin America, and I have family in a few different Latin countries. I’ve also lived and worked in Northern New Jersey for large part of my life. So I have a very good grasp of both Latin American culture and the culture here in the United States. Over the years I’ve noticed that my male friends, cousins, and uncles in Latin America usually get married and have kids at earlier ages then my American friends and family.

In general there seems to be a pattern where foreign males tend to have kids and get married a lot sooner then American males. Out of all my male friends in the U.S. very few got married in their late teens or early twenties, and only a few were married and had kids in their later 20’s. In fact, I’d say more then half of my friends in their 30’s here in the U.S. are single, maybe dating, but not married and have no kids.

So what gives? Why are these foreign guys procreating and marrying at earlier ages? Is it the water? Do they have a higher sperm count? All joking aside, I do think there are a few main reasons for this difference, but I think the biggest reason is this:

In Latin America men have much better dating options and they start meeting and dating women, even having sex at much younger ages. They enter the dating game much sooner, and they get more playing time, so eventually something happens and they up having kids and/or getting married.

I think some people would argue that Latin American men get married sooner because they might not use as much contraception, as American men, and then they get a girl pregnant, and they have to marry her. There probably is some small truth to this, but this scenario didn’t play out with any of my friends or family who are already married in Latin America.

And let’s not forget something else… I’ve met many, and I mean many men who have may have been dating in the U.S. and other countries such as Canada, Australia and England, but they’ve never been married there. These men step into Latin America, and after a few months of working there, or living there, they end up getting married? How do you explain that? The Internet is riddled with stories of workers, expats, students, volunteers, and vacationers who end up getting married to the sweet women they meet during their stay in Latin America. Seems like too much of a coincidence in my book…

I’ve been studying and researching phenomenon’s like this for many years, and my gut tells me that these men who were never married and who get married when they spend some time in Latin America do so because in Latin America they have access to quality, attractive, down to earth women. It’s something that very few American’s, Western Europeans, or our other counterparts, have access to at home.

Now imagine if you grew up in Latin America and had access to quality attractive women ever since you were young enough to start chasing women… Maybe you would be married and settled by now too? It’s something to think about, and it’s just another one of those dichotomies between the anti-male and pro-male regions of this world.

American Women Vs Foreign Women

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Over the years, through traveling and interaction with foreign women I’ve realized that there are many differences in the way they act, think, and carry themselves. Foreign women aren’t as guarded, they’re more friendly for the most part, are more prone to be family oriented. In this article and video I list some of the differences I’ve noticed about foreign women.

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Is there really a difference between the women of most advanced and economically developed nations (Australia, U.S, Canada, Western Europe – I’ll refer to all of these women as “American women” for the sake of clarity within this article) and those of the developing nations (Latin America, Eastern Europe, South East Asia – I’ll refer to all of these women as “foreign women” throughout this article)? I firmly believe, as many other men do, that there are some deep rooted differences.

In many respects these foreign women are giving American women a run for their money. Many men are flocking to marriage agencies, international dating sites, and embarking on trips to foreign lands in search of romance with these foreign women. Marriage between foreign women and American men is at an all time high, and growing each year.

So what makes these foreign women so different from American women?

#1. Foreign women tend to have more traditional, old fashioned values. The type of values that many American women had back in the early and mid 1900’s. In many ways, these old fashioned values have been lost with American women. Much of this is due to the women’s liberation movement. Although this movement brought about many positive changes for women, it also sacrificed many of the old fashioned, family oriented, values and placed women’s primary focus not on the family, but on their career. Foreign women tend to put their family first, before anything else, even their careers. In a sense many of these foreign women are not unlike the grand mothers and great grand mothers of the current generation of American women.

#2. Foreign women tend to stay in shape much more then American women. There is no doubt that the wealthiest countries are suffering from an obesity epidemic. Many studies have shown that women more prone to gain weight then men. In the United States for example, women are more more prone to be obese even at young ages. This is not only a health issue, but it robes these women of their feminine curves. Foreign women don’t have this problem. They maintain their feminine curves even into their 30’s and 40’s.

#3. Foreign women treat men better then American women. One small example is the fact that many foreign women love to cook for their man. It’s not uncommon to find women that love to cook not only for their partner, but for their entire family. Foreign women don’t see these types of acts as burdens, or forms of submissiveness. On the contrary, they see these types of acts as privileges, and it solidifies their roles within the relationship (and family) as a nurturing and caring figure.

#4. Foreign women are less materialistic. Foreign women who have grown up in less developed countries not fallen prey to the consumer-driven mindset many American women (and men) have been indoctrinated into. They’ve learned to get by on much less. They’ve probably sacrificed material things throughout their life, and they’ve learned to cherish and care for the things that really matter. In this way, foreign women are much easier to please when it comes to materiel wealth. On the other hand, many men find it hard to please American women who have become accustomed to a certain level of material wealth.

#5. Foreign women love North American, and Western European men. Just as foreign women treat men better then American women. American men treat foreign women better then their local men. Many of these foreign women have to deal with men who don’t appreciate them, cheat on them, and an environment that favors men in many ways. American men are a much welcomed change for foreign women, because they treat them better on many levels. It this sense it’s a match made in heaven because both parties treat each other better then what they are accustomed to.

#6. Foreign women are more open to dating older men. It’s not that uncommon for foreign women to date much older men within their own culture. My mother was 10 years younger then my father. I’ve known foreign couples where the man was 20 years older then woman. The popular Mexican artist wrote a song title “40 and 20″ (40 y 20 by Jose Jose). It was a love song about a 40 year old man who was dating a 20 year old woman, you can find it on youtube.

With the advent of the Internet, it’s getting much easier for American men to meet and correspond with foreign women. Foreign women have never been more accessible then they are today and for many American men, like myself, they have become the better option. This is not to say there aren’t women in the United States or Western Europe who have all of these qualities. There are many good, old fashioned women, who take care of themselves here as well, but I’ve found that all of the these women are already committed and taken.

So there you have it. Let me know what you think, I welcome all comments and feedback.

Regards,

How Brazilian Women View Foreigners

I’ve made a lot of female friends online over the past few years. I recently had an interesting conversation with a friend I met not too long ago.

My friend is from São Paulo and I asked her a lot of questions, in a sort of friendly interview. She told me about her impressions of foreigners, and gave me some tips I think many of you will find useful. Here goes…

Question #1. Where are you from in Brazil and what do you do?

I am from São Paulo and work with events, developing new business and driving more Brazilian attendance to international exhibitions, organizing delegations of executives from different sectors

Question #2. What are the main obstacles for foreigners in Brazil?

First the language, because different from what many people believe not every Brazilian speaks English and if the purpose of the trip is tourism or especially business it is important to have someone speaking Portuguese for intermediate conversations and to translate different things. Brazilians are very friendly and always try to understand but it helps a lot having someone in the group that speaks the language.

Question #3. What are common mistakes that foreigners make in Brazil?

Being overly concerned with safety issues and not researching about the country and its culture before traveling. Every country has problems with safety, specially the major cities in the world like New York, Madrid, Rio de Janeiro and São Paulo in Brazil and every tourist needs to be careful with some things. But it does not mean a tourist cannot walk around or cannot use the metro and public transportation. From my experience because I receive many foreigners coming for business they always leave the country very surprised about everything: food, hotels, quality of service, people and even safety.

My advice would be to research about the country and cities you are going to visit and come open minded to a different culture and try new things e.g. food. For example if an American comes to Brazil and only wants to eat at American restaurants he will have this option, but why not try and enjoy the differences from home.

Another mistake is to come to Brazil and only think about
Rio de Janeiro, Rio is beautiful but there is so much to see including amazing beaches in places like Fernando de Noronha, Fortaleza, Salvador, Iguassu falls, Amazonia to see the rainforest or Pantanal. If a foreigner comes 5 times to Brazil he won’t be able to see all.

Question #4. What characteristic of other nationalities strikes you as the most different (eg. sense of humor, formality, dress)?

In South Africa people are always smiling and have a great
sense of humor.

Question #5. Which English accent do you prefer and why (eg. Scottish, American, Australian)?

I prefer American, probably because I learned English living in the USA with an American family during an exchange program. It sounds more familiar to me.

Question #6. Favourite place travelled abroad and why?

South Africa was my favorite trip because of the mix: very
friendly people, great service, beautiful views specially in Cape Town and the safari something I always wanted to do. I felt at home in South Africa.

Question #7. Favourite foreign food?

Italian and Japanese food.

Question #8. Favourite foreign band, book and movie?

I like Shania Twain and Bon Jovi, favorite book Harry Potter and movie The Lord of the Rings.

Question #9. What is the difference between dating a Brazilian and Foreigner (if this applies to you or perhaps a friend)?

I never dated a foreigner but I guess Brazilians are closer to their family, considering that we don’t leave the house of our parents usually until we get married and we are always together doing family trips, lunches and dinners and foreigners are more independent of the family because leave the house with 17 years old to go to college in a different city.

Question #10. Can you share an incident, misunderstanding or ‘culture shock’ that you have experienced with a foreigner?

I guess I can call a culture shock when I lived in the USA as an exchange student and could see how difficult it was to make friends. I guess in Brazil when we have someone from another country we want to help, and instantly become friends, we are really open to that and in the USA it took a while to “break the ice” because Americans don’t instantly become friends, but once they do is about the same in Brazil.

Another shock for me while a student was to hear some questions about my country, such as: Do you have McDonald’s there? Do you have ice cream? Do you live in trees? Does it rain there? That was a shock for me to know that many people didn’t have an idea of what Brazil was.

And as a professional working with Americans to understand
that they are very brief and objective about everything and we are not. I had to deal with these cultural differences when sending e-mails and when traveling also.

Question #11. What are 2 things you would recommend for a visitor to do in Brazil to better understand Brazilian people and their culture?

-Have a Brazilian churrasco (barbecue) with caipirinha (typical drink).
-Have feijoada, a typical Brazilian food on Wednesday or Saturday.
-Have pizza on a Sunday.
-Go to a nice beach for the weekend.
-Go to a happy hour on a Friday evening to a pub after work with some
friends.

Well, that’s it for my friendly Interview guys. Keep sending me your emails, questions and comments.

Be Safe,