What Happens To Game And Pickup During A Recession?

When it comes to dating in such a highly competitive environment such as the United States, you need stand out from the rest of the pack in order to date the most desirable women. It’s social Darwinism (for men). In the beginning of my book on international dating, I go into all the factors that make your local dating scene an uphill battle with many chips stacked against you, which practically forces you to work to stand out in some way, or stay single.

If you’re very wealthy, you’ll be able to meet and date the most sought after women because of your wealth. If you have great looks, this helps you stand out too, and you’ll meet women this way. If you have sophistication, and “game”, you’ll also stand out from the crowd and date the most desirable women.

Popular belief in the online dating community and seduction community holds that “game” trumps everything. In other words a guy who is really smooth, and sophisticated will get better results with women then a guy with a ton of money or guy with looks like a male model.

Whether or not this is true, one thing is for certain. As the economy continues it’s downward slide, money and wealth will become much more important than both looks or game, and here’s why:

First of all, let’s look at the past circumstances. In a country like the United States, a country with one of the highest recent standards of living, the average income is about 40k/year. Material possessions are common; credit is usually easy to come by. Having a nice car, or even your own small apartment doesn’t really make you stand out. In an area like Northern New Jersey/New York City where the average income is 50k/year if you make 60k/year, you’re just a little above average. That doesn’t sound like an income that really makes you stand outside of the pack, at least not where I live…

My point is, that in the past, “game” may have been more important then money. Why? Because when times were good, everyone had a good amount of money. What guy didn’t have money to spend on drinks for his date? What guy didn’t have money to buy dinner? Most men had money to buy a nice car. Most men had money to spend on the women they were dating, and most guys overspent. Which is one of the reasons why the seduction community teaches men not to spend money or buy drinks or dinner, so that they can stand out from all the other guys that DO buy drinks and dinner and overspend.

So, when money was falling out of trees, having a bit of it really didn’t set you apart. So maybe having “game” would set you apart more then having money.

But what happens during this long term downward trend where massive amounts of wealth is being lost, many men are loosing their jobs, credit is tight, and standards of living are dropping?

The truth is money isn’t as easy to come by as it use to be in the United States. And as money and wealth become scarcer, the law of supply and demand dictates that they will also become more sought after.

I’ll give you one small example (although I have many). I have many female friends back in New Jersey and while I’m back here in New Jersey, I’ve caught up with a lot of them. One of the biggest complaints I’ve heard about boyfriends and guys they’re dating is that they’re being cheap, or that they’re broke. One friend specifically mentioned that she was about to dump her boyfriend because he doesn’t buy her anything and because he’s being cheap. But guys aren’t the only ones feeling the pinch. For example girls that were working in bars or as waitresses aren’t making as much money as they use, just to name one small industry.

The good old days of the “game” trump card are over. And as this economic downturn is expected to span at least a 5 to 10 year period if not more, you can expect that money and wealth will be what sets you apart from the pack the most, going forward.

Ever heard of phrase “cash is king”? It’s certainly starting to look that way.

Bars And Clubs During The Recession

Are clubs getting better for guys during the recession? I think they are and here’s why.

I’m back in New Jersey for a few weeks and I went out to a few bars and clubs recently. If you’ve read my material you know that I pay a lot of attention to male/female ratios on the nights I go out. I like to pick places where the odds are in my favor or at least even. I hate going to places that are known as infamous “sausage parties”.

These past few times I went out it looks like the ratios haven’t been as bad as they use to be even a year back. During this past year things have gotten really bad in the Economy. There has been hemorrhage of jobs in the Financial sector and the housing and real estate industry. All of these industries are male dominated. The wall street journal featured and article Why This Recession Is Hitting Men Harder which explained this in detail.

I think the WSJ is right and I think the New York area got hit especially hard. So what does this have to do with clubs and bars? The last few times I’ve been out, I noticed that the clubs weren’t as packed as they used to be and in some cases the ratios were almost even. A lot of men are probably opting out of the club and bar scene during the recession because they’re feeling the pinch.

But it get’s even better… The popular ladies nights which no one use to pay attention to in the past now get a lot more respect. Ladies get in free before certain hours to many of the tri-states best clubs, and they also get drink specials. I tested my theory out and decided to check out club all-zone in Roselle, NJ on ladies night. I got there as soon as they opened the door and I was totally right. For the next hour the place filled up with women who didn’t want to pay to get in after 10:30. The guys didn’t start showing up until 11:00 or so, but the I had about an hour and a half of time where there were many more women then men in the club (although eventually it evened up).

So the moral of the story:

1. Ratios in bars and clubs might be getting better because guys are feeling the pinch more then women.

2. Go early on ladies nights because a lot more ladies are trying to get in for free and take advantage of drink specials during this recession. You’ll have an hour or two of great ratios, and virtually no competition!

Good luck!

Dan DeLa Cruz

How The Global Recession Effects Global Dating

How The Global Recession Effects Global Dating

Today I wanted to touch on a topic that has looming over our heads for a while now. It’s pretty clear we’re knee deep in a global recession and it’s not just effecting the United States. Practically ever economy in world is feeling the impact of this global economic slowdown. But what does this mean for global dating? How will this global slow down affect the men that are a part of this global dating movement?

Well, I have some good news and bad news and I’m going to lay out the pros and cons of this recession for you.

If you’ve read my book you know that I point out in one of the sections how the men from developing nations migrate to the wealthy nations in disproportionate numbers to the women. This leaves many single women back home and many single guys competing for the women in your local area.

One of the pros of this recession is that this trend is set to diminish and even reverse a bit within the next few years. As the global economies worsen the men that have migrated to will start to feel the economic pain of the recession. Many will loose their jobs, and many more will be making less money than they use to. For this reason, many of these men have already started to return to their homelands.

A recent article on newsday.com describes the fact that immigrants are now making a lot less money. You can read the article here: click here

I use to live in an immigrant community in the United States and I have a lot of personal friends that still live there and I keep in touch with them. I’ve already heard reports of vast amounts of men returning to their countries because of the economic situations in Europe, North America, and other places.

An article in networkworld.com gives us a glimpse at this trend. The article points out that:

Fewer companies filed petitions for H-1B visas this year as the economic recession continues to threaten U.S. jobs and shrink the demand for foreign talent.

U.S. companies since April 1 have filed some 42,000 petitions with the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services agency for 65,000 H-1B Specialty Occupation Visas available for 2010, a fraction of previous years’ petitions. In 2007, the USCIS received some 150,000 petitions in a matter of days, and in 2008 the agency conducted a lottery after 163,000 petitions were filed in less than a week.

So what’s the good news about this bad news? The silver on lining on this particular cloud is that the male to female ratios in countries have experienced a lot of immigration, countries like the United States, will start to get a bit better.

The bad news is that as immigrant men move back home the ratios in developing nations such as Colombia, and Costa Rica will start to even up and won’t be as lop-sided as they use to be. In other words the rations won’t favor the men as much as they use to in places like Brazil. However in order for this to drastically effect either the ratio of men to women in the upper or lower tiers, it’s going to take a few years and by then, the global economy may recover and we will resume the trend in migration of men to more economically fertile pastures.

There’s also one very positive aspect to this global slowdown. With tough economic times ahead, many of the upper tier men who would have traveled, or who traveled in the past, will not be able to make the trip anymore due to the current economic situation. This means that the amount of upper tier men who make it down to the lower tiers will be far less during this economic slowdown.

My suggestion is to take advantage of this fact and make an extra effort to save money and slot some time. Since there are less foreigners traveling to Latin America, South East Asia, and Eastern Europe, it’s going to spell out better results for you in the end, as long as you can take your trip.

If your in a position to take a trip at this point in time, once you get to your destination it will be well worth it because now you’re competing with less foreign guys.

Many of the women I’ve met who have online profiles have told me that they talk to many guys, but for the most part it’s a waste of time because fewer men are traveling to visit them. Take this into account, when you’re saving up some time and money to travel to the lower tiers… with the current state of affairs, your trip now will mean a lot more to the women you will visit.

Finally, I’d like to add that safety may become a bigger concern as the world wide economies are impacted by the global slowdown. So be safe, no matter where you go! Although I haven’t seen too many signs of increased safety concerns in Latin America, I would advise everyone to be extra cautious due the current economic climate.

I’ll catch you later,