Obesity: One of the Reasons It’s Harder to Date Attractive Women

A large chunk of my first book, The Global Dating Revolution, revolves around explaining the differences between different dating environments around the world. The truth is dating environments in various regions around the world differ for many reasons. Some reasons are economic, some are cultural, some are demographic, I get in the nitty gritty of all of this in my book. I call these negative environmental differences (from a man’s point of view), handicaps or sometimes “whammies.” If you can think of a better name for them please let me know!

One of the most frightening handicaps in the United States and other wealthy regions of the world is the obesity problem. The following excerpt is taken from page 72 of The Global Dating Revolution:

As the chapter continues I go onto explain some of the other effects obesity has on your dating environment. Keep in mind this is only one of the many handicaps that you might be facing in your local dating environment. Of course there will always be some men that can overcome all the handicaps and date many attractive women, but not everyone can be Michael Jordan.

But in places like Costa Rica, Colombia, Brazil, Ukraine, Russia and others, obesity and other handicaps aren’t as big of an issue or present at all. These are the REAL reasons why the dating environment in many foreign countries is actually skewed towards the men, instead of towards the women, like it is in most places in the USA.

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You Have a College Degree: So What?

In wealthy countries such as the United States, many things that were once highly valued (and still are valued abroad) have lost their glitter. One example of this is a college Education. Not too long ago a College education was a big deal. But these days, it’s practically the equivalent of a high school diploma.

Many things in the U.S. like education, now have diminished value, and a College education is one perfect example. These days you not only been a bachelors degree to get a decent job, in many cases you need a Masters degree, MBA or PHD.

According to the world bank, approximately 31% of the U.S. population has completed post secondary education. Compared to 8.2% in 1950. The U.S. has the highest level of college graduates, even among other highly developed nations. For example Germany is at 11%, and Japan is at 15%.

But the numbers get even lower if we look at developing nations. In Brazil for example the number of post secondary educated people in the country is just 5.7%, Colombia is at 6.7%, Italy is 8.3%, Cuba is at 8.6% and Poland is at 9.6%.

It’s pretty clear that in the U.S., since so many people now have college degrees, having one really doesn’t say much about you. But, I always like to view things on a global level. Many things that are taken for granted in the U.S. like a college degree, a good job, economic stability, and an education among other things are still valued very highly by society in places where these things aren’t so common.

Tell an American girl you just graduate with a degree in economics, and she’ll shrug. But tell a Brazilian girl the same thing and she might be a bit impressed. By the same token, there many college graduates that can’t even get a job once they graduate in the U.S. But if you take that degree abroad, it has much more clout and weight with employers.

Although a College education may be scoffed at by some people in the U.S., it’s nothing to be laughed at on a global level. One of the measures of manhood is the ability to set, and achieve goals. Obtaining a degree is by no means an easily obtainable goal, and it does deserve it’s merits. Also, in today’s technology driven society, most of the man’s productivity, is now done on a mental level. We no longer run around the forest killing our food with bows, arrows, and sticks. In today’s world a man’s productivity, and a mans ability to provide the most basic needs of food, shelter, and stability is his ability to earn a living and earn wages. Wages are directly correlated to the level of education.

As with everything else on my website and blog, I don’t just look at things from an American perspective. Many American guys are closed off to the notion that things abroad including society and culture are much different and operate at different levels. What applies in the U.S. doesn’t always apply abroad.

The truth is that in many foreign countries including European ones, a degree, and an education makes you stand out both with employers but also with the opposite sex. Globally the post secondary education rate is 9.1%. If you hold a degree consider yourself among that top 9.1% most educated of the world population, congratulations.

Nice Guys Finish Last But Who Are These Nice Guys?

I run into it all the time… Comments, emails and messages on Internet forums of women, as well as men who state that the only men who would be willing and “desperate” enough to look abroad for love, romance, and dating are the ultimate “loosers”. The most undesirable genetic material that no “empowered” American woman would touch with a ten foot pole. But let’s look at the reality and not the assumptions.

The reality is that a great majority of the men who are looking abroad are those nice guys! Yes the guys that are finishing last next to the bad boys. The guys that play the main role in most romantic comedies. These are good, decent looking, successful men, who probably spent too much time educating themselves or involved in their careers, or other things to really learn how to interact with American women.

Most American women undeniably like the bad-boy. And practically all of the attractive ones could give two shits that you’re a lawyer, small business owner, or any career oriented type of man. I wrote a post about why money may becoming more important during the recession, but I still think American women often pick bad boys over money boys.

They’re looking for the guys that give them some excitement, not some boring educated man who spent his whole life saving his money, educating himself and dedicating himself to his profession. How boring is that? Saving? lol, where’s the risk in that? An education? Ohh how “nice”…

The truth is that American women are bypassing great guys, guys who have great careers, stable futures, and good educations. But American women don’t want that… stability is too boring, education is too tame, and nice guys aren’t exciting.

So when I see comments like this on youtube:

I laugh. The haters have no clue.

Just like the smart money is exiting the country right now towards foreign investments, the smart “nice guys” are leaving for foreign women.

As a result of writing my book, “The Global Dating Revolution,” I’ve met, spoken to, and interchanged emails with thousands of men. A majority of the guys I’ve interacted with seem like they’re very well educated, many of them are working for respectable companies, while others are running small business etc. Most of them would be considered successful and very educated. So what’s going on here?

Yes, unfortunately with American women, nice guys finish last. But American women should reconsider who their passing up because the world is getting smaller and nice guys are tired of being “just friends”. Nice guys now have the option to look abroad where women have totally different attitudes towards successful educated men.

An American Girls Reaction To The International Dating Lifestyle

I found myself in an Interesting conversation with an American girl a few days ago. When she found about my traveling lifestyle and my interest in foreign women some common stereotypes and misconceptions surfaced in the conversation.

At one point in the conversation I mentioned that I had been to Brazil and was planning on going back. Her eye’s flared a bit; at her learning that someone would dare travel into a country such as Brazil. Apparently one of her best guy friends had married a Brazilian lady and traveled to Brazil himself. According to this guy he had a great time, and that doesn’t surprise me, but it didn’t seem to convince this American girl one bit that Brazil could just be a nice place, with nice people, good food and good weather, not to mention amazing women.

I got a kick when she told me to “watch out for the women” because “they’re just out in the streets,” whatever that meant. She also threw in the typical AIDS rate myth telling me that many of those girls have AIDS. I just smiled and tried to explain to her that this wasn’t the case. In fact here are the most recent AIDS numbers according to the world health organization:

United States:
Estimate Adult HIV Prevalence 2007: 0.6%
Number of People Living With HIV 2007: 1,200,000
Percentage of Population Living With HIV 2007: 3.9%

Brazil:
Estimate Adult HIV Prevalence 2007: 0.6%
Number of People Living With HIV 2007: 730,000
Percentage of Population Living With HIV 2007: 3.8%

You can view these numbers for yourself at the world health organization websites, the CIA fact book or even wikipedia:
1. Wikipedia AIDS Adult Prevalence
2. World Health Organization AIDS Country Information
3. CIA World Fact Book People Living With Aids

All in all Brazil ranks along side countries like Spain, United States, Italy, France, and Argentina when it comes to the spread of AIDS within it’s population. If you’re going to be sexually active, you have just as much risk and exposure to AIDS in Brazil then in any of these countries.

I found it pretty amusing that even to this day, with good information available for free and easily accessible format online, from reliable government and international agencies, countries like Brazil still get a bad rap. In any case, I shrugged off her comment and moved on in the conversation.

It turns out that we did agree on something about Brazil when another topic came up. While we were talking about her guy friend who married a Brazilian girl, she mentioned that this guy had traveled to Brazil with his wife and that other Brazilian girls were hitting on her husband right in her face! I got a kick out of that and I can totally see that happening, but that’s just the nature of the Brazilian dating scene. Girls are very aggressive in countries like Brazil, Colombia, and Costa Rica and I agreed with her that this was the case.

Finally the conversation shifted to the fact that I’m a U.S. citizen that this girl made a comment that “I’m a ticket out” which is the only reason why these women would be Interested in me, so I’d better watch out. Again, another one of the famous stereotypes about foreign women: They’re only out to get a U.S. citizenship.

I can’t explain all the reasons why this is another false allegation in one small blog post, you can get all the details in my book “The Global Dating Revolution.” But I’ll point out to the simple fact that foreign guys don’t have U.S. citizenship, yet all studies, and research shows that foreign guys have better love lives then American men? The reason for this is because they’re surrounded their entire lives by quality, attractive foreign women who have to claw and scratch for their (the guys) attention. The dating scene abroad far favors the men over the women, so while there may be a few vixens looking for a ticket out, the interest, smiles, and flirting you receive from foreign women is in most part due to the dating environment these women live in.

It was an interesting conversation indeed, and I think it typifies the interactions some of you may have when speaking to friends, family and co-workers about traveling abroad to meet women. I hope that through my book and blog I can arm you with the right knowledge to refute these falls claims and allegations about foreign women and foreign countries.
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5 Things I Wish I Knew About Women and Dating When I Was 22

If I had a time machine I wish I could go back in time to advise my younger self to do things differently when it comes to women and dating. Knowing what I know today I could have saved thousands of dollars, untold amounts of energy, and tons of effort. Even though I had an average love life, I can just imagine what things would be like if I had focused my time en energy not on spending to impress the local ladies, but saving to invest international dating.

1. The International dating scene is 10 times better then the best dating scene in the U.S. I can go on and on about why this is the case, but that’s just the way it is these days. Someday 100 years from today, this may not be the case, but as it stands today, if you really want to supercharge your love life international dating is the way to go.

2. There are millions of available foreign women online, and they’re eager to meet regular guys. Every day more and more foreign women make it online. The sheer numbers of foreign women available online is staggering and the figure gets larger every day. You don’t need to travel any longer to meet foreign women. You can meet them from the comfort of your own home, and decide to travel later.

3. Traveling is not as expensive as it seems. Considering that you can a ticket to Costa Rica for sometimes as low as $200 dollars round trip from New York to San Jose, travel is not expensive as it seems. When I was younger I didn’t know you could stay at hostels for as little as $5 dollars a day (Sometimes less), or that tickets could be so cheap. If you’re really on tight budget there’s still ways to swing a trip. Back when I was 22 I would routinely spend $100-$200 just on a single night out to New York City. If I could cut back on weekend expenses for a month I’d have enough for a 1 or 2 weeks stay in Costa Rica.

4. Foreign women are naturally friendly and no extra mind games are needed to meet and date them. When I was 22 I was certain that “seduction” tactics were necessary to get anywhere with women. I didn’t realize that they’re only necessary in places where the dating scene is stacked against you. In places like this you need something to stand out, and if you don’t have the looks or money, you’re going to need some routines, mental mind games, and be able to talk your way into romance. This isn’t necessary abroad. A simple Eminem style “Hi, my name is…” will do just fine. The foreign women will take care of rest.

5. It’s all about ROI. If you want to be successful in any part of life you have to look at the return on investment. Today I know that the ROI for trying to dating locally here in New York/New Jersey really isn’t all that great. So I invest my money, time and energy in the international dating scene. It’s the same reason why many investors are now investing their money abroad and not in U.S. stocks and assets. The ROI of foreign investments has been much greater in the past few years. So when it comes to my love life, I now prefer to invest in international dating and foreign women.

If you were giving advice to your 22 year self about women and dating, what would it be?

Why Do Foreign Men Have Kids And Marry At Much Younger Ages Then American Men?

I’ve traveled extensively through Latin America, and I have family in a few different Latin countries. I’ve also lived and worked in Northern New Jersey for large part of my life. So I have a very good grasp of both Latin American culture and the culture here in the United States. Over the years I’ve noticed that my male friends, cousins, and uncles in Latin America usually get married and have kids at earlier ages then my American friends and family.

In general there seems to be a pattern where foreign males tend to have kids and get married a lot sooner then American males. Out of all my male friends in the U.S. very few got married in their late teens or early twenties, and only a few were married and had kids in their later 20’s. In fact, I’d say more then half of my friends in their 30’s here in the U.S. are single, maybe dating, but not married and have no kids.

So what gives? Why are these foreign guys procreating and marrying at earlier ages? Is it the water? Do they have a higher sperm count? All joking aside, I do think there are a few main reasons for this difference, but I think the biggest reason is this:

In Latin America men have much better dating options and they start meeting and dating women, even having sex at much younger ages. They enter the dating game much sooner, and they get more playing time, so eventually something happens and they up having kids and/or getting married.

I think some people would argue that Latin American men get married sooner because they might not use as much contraception, as American men, and then they get a girl pregnant, and they have to marry her. There probably is some small truth to this, but this scenario didn’t play out with any of my friends or family who are already married in Latin America.

And let’s not forget something else… I’ve met many, and I mean many men who have may have been dating in the U.S. and other countries such as Canada, Australia and England, but they’ve never been married there. These men step into Latin America, and after a few months of working there, or living there, they end up getting married? How do you explain that? The Internet is riddled with stories of workers, expats, students, volunteers, and vacationers who end up getting married to the sweet women they meet during their stay in Latin America. Seems like too much of a coincidence in my book…

I’ve been studying and researching phenomenon’s like this for many years, and my gut tells me that these men who were never married and who get married when they spend some time in Latin America do so because in Latin America they have access to quality, attractive, down to earth women. It’s something that very few American’s, Western Europeans, or our other counterparts, have access to at home.

Now imagine if you grew up in Latin America and had access to quality attractive women ever since you were young enough to start chasing women… Maybe you would be married and settled by now too? It’s something to think about, and it’s just another one of those dichotomies between the anti-male and pro-male regions of this world.